Farrah and Sophia Abraham: We've Been Through It All and Life Has Never Been Better.

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Welcome to Fargo Talks,

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ladies.

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Thank you for having me back.

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Thank you for having Sophia for the first time.

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Yes.

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Well,

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it's as a dad of a,

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and we talked before,

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of an almost

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17-year-old stepdaughter.

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My daughter's 16,

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so I'm like,

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yes,

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of course.

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Yes,

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Sophia's 16,

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everyone's 16.

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Come on with her fangs.

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Let's check in.

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Oh,

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yeah.

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These are so bad.

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Fang day.

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She just got these on literally right before here.

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So Sophia,

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walk me through the mindset of just wake up one day and go,

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hi,

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golly,

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I want some fangs.

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You know,

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this was actually,

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I've been wanting fangs for like two years and I've just been seeing them on TikTok for a very long time.

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And I've always loved vampires and I've always wanted vampire teeth.

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And I've always tried on like those glued on ones that you do,

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but they just never like sit right on my teeth.

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So.

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These are made right.

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They fit right.

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And I love them.

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Those are like veneers.

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That's like legit fangs?

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It's composite bonding.

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So they just bond like tooth material onto your teeth.

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So it lasts like five to ten years.

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Or more.

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Yeah.

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So we do a podcast in five years and you come back here,

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you're going to have those fangs on.

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Yes.

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That's awesome.

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Yes.

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Definitely.

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Sophia had me going to so many dentists,

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by the way,

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like last year,

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the year before.

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And I'm happy we found a really good dentist here in Las Vegas.

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So,

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yeah.

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How'd you find the dentist?

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Like who has the most like five-star fang reviews?

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Yeah.

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After like everyone else that I was looking at,

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I think I just went fang crazy on the internet.

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And I was like,

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I need to find the best one.

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Did you use AI?

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Maybe I used AI.

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I do use AI pretty much for everything now.

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And it's been cutting out time.

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You do?

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Yeah.

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ChatGPT is my new best friend.

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I was talking to Scott about it.

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I use it a lot now to prime the pump for engagement farming on posts.

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I use it to reply to comments.

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Oh,

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that's good.

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And what I'll do is I'll take a screenshot of the comment that the person leaves.

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And I'm going to chat to you.

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I dropped one today about how I think Gavin Newsom,

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my opinion,

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it's okay.

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Who's Gavin Newsom again?

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Is the most evil,

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is the most dangerous politician in the country right now.

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It's Gavin Newsom.

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So people are coming in and defending him that all live in California.

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Okay.

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I go to chat GPT and say,

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this is what I said.

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Yes.

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Here is a screenshot of the comment.

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Give me a biting comma factual reply.

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Yeah.

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What did AI give you?

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Gold.

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Like one was like Star Wars theme and it gave me a Star Wars theme one back.

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Oh my God.

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So good.

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And then you just see the,

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you know,

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then the views go.

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And just keep going up.

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I love it.

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Don't you love AI?

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It's like,

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oh,

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I wish we had this invention when we were like,

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you know.

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Five generations back.

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It's bananas.

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Like what we're in now and you're seeing it,

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my love,

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is like what it's going to do,

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again,

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for good.

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There's a lot of not good stuff,

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but the good stuff is like just the time it saves you.

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Like I don't want to sit and reply to all these comments.

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I don't want to think about the comments.

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Think about what am I going to say.

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We have lives.

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By the way,

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we used to do so much thinking that we didn't need it.

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We did not need to do that much thinking.

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It's so true.

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Life should be like.

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thoughtless like i don't even like to plan now it's just prompting if you can prompt well and tell and what's it you keep doing it enough yeah um i do it with my clips from here my team will like if we have a clip of you and i talking we'll take a 30 second clip we'll drop it into a platform called descript and pull the transcript of what's said and then it'll be like sophia jeff sophia jeff sophia jeff and then put it into a prompt in chat gpt and it creates headlines a

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video description for YouTube.

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With trending hashtags and a call to action to subscribe.

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And a thank you to my sponsor.

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Yeah.

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Sophia,

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my podcast in the future.

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So she'll take some notes.

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Whenever.

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Let me know.

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I'm happy to help you out,

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kiddo.

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Seriously.

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Podcast notes.

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This is episode like 113,

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114.

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And I look like this and still have like a decent like four to five million people a month are checking me out.

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Don't know why.

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My head looks like my neck threw up basically.

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Just is what it is.

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Oh,

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my God.

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There's so many guys around me who are like,

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I need to work on my neck.

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I'm

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I'm about ready to do a facelift actually.

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So you know what you need to watch.

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I know a guy here in town who was very good that was trained in Beverly Hills.

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I'm actually going to be doing it in Beverly Hills.

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Oh,

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that's where you want to go.

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I started intermittent fasting like two months ago.

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There you go.

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No neck surgery.

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We just fast.

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And I'm down 30 pounds.

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I've lost 30 pounds.

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My skin's gotten better.

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Like oily T-zone's kind of gone.

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I used to have more chins in the Chinese phone book.

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Like just crazy.

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And so.

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It's like

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Scott was like,

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dude,

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what's up?

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My wife today.

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What are you doing with your skin,

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honey?

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I'm like,

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I haven't touched your foundation.

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I'm just I'm 18 hours.

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I don't eat every single day and I eat clean.

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Wow.

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That's all.

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Don't eat all the time.

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Eat when you're,

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you know,

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eat.

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And when you eat,

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eat clean.

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literally.

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And then that's what we're about.

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Lots of hydration.

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Water,

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water,

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water,

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water,

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water,

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water.

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Yeah.

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It's not that hard.

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I'm not that smart.

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I'm not that smart.

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I do feel like the majority of us dehydrate ourselves.

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I would say a majority of the population is dehydrated.

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Yes,

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they are.

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Right?

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Because people just don't.

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Or like you're drinking soda.

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Or coffee.

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Or coffee.

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I mean,

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I started seeing legs in Austin,

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Texas.

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I don't know if I told Sophia about this.

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I started seeing legs like they were just like looking like,

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I don't know,

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shrivelly.

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Like,

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and honestly,

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it's because people are dehydrated.

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And it just looks like,

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I don't know if coagulated.

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Your legs are all nasty?

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like it's like coagulation on your legs and it affects your skin,

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right?

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So normally our legs are just smooth.

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Is it like cellulite or something?

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No,

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it is straight up from dehydration.

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So I kept asking because I was like.

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I think my legs are doing this now.

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And she's like,

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you are so dehydrated.

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She's like,

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so many people here don't realize that they're dehydrated.

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Austin,

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Texas,

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really,

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the air.

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As soon as we land,

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we're like,

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whoa,

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there's so much in it.

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We're having allergies.

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We're dehydrated.

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And I think people really need to hydrate so that they have smooth legs and skin.

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You're seeing the benefits.

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You're raving about these benefits.

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Just intermittent fast.

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Yeah.

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I mean,

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not for you.

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You're too young.

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But you're young,

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but

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I'm old.

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I got to do it.

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I'm old.

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And so it's like,

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no.

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And once you start going past a certain amount of time,

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it's like past like 36 hours,

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your cells start to actually like get better and work on themselves.

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That's good.

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And so like all the toxic stuff just comes out in your pee.

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And that's it.

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So

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12 to 16 ounces of water every hour.

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Yeah.

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So I'm either drinking water or peeing all day long.

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Yeah.

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And that's it.

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I'm going to have some water.

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Cheers to that.

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And then also it's like,

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don't eat after like,

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you know,

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six o'clock,

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630.

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I know.

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I know.

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You guys are like,

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we're going to have third dinner by then.

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I will say this.

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So you say don't eat after six o'clock.

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She says don't eat after nine.

296
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I have a hard rule.

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I have a hard rule.

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Stop eating after 9 p.m.

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I'm like,

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we're rushing home.

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We need to eat.

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You better have that down your throat in 10 minutes.

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It's about to be nine.

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Because honestly,

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like.

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our just our kiddie and rhythms and our food and our stomachs and everything it just totally you feel like frumpy if you keep eating at 1 a.m and i'll feel frumpy oh you're like i gotta go to the gym mom we need to go to the gym you won't know frumpy until you're 30s okay you're fine how are you 16 yeah oh goodness gracious i have to say i have t-shirts older than you you're fine you don't even know what frump is i

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gotta say i'm sorry but there is an epidemic of

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You know,

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our kids not having good posture,

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not having good health,

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not having good regimens,

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you know.

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And I think that's something I really am like,

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hey,

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you need to get on a schedule.

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You need to have a routine.

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And that is the most important thing.

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You want to know how I was sleeping in the airplane?

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Successful adult.

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I was sleeping like this.

321
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I know.

322
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That's not good.

323
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Well,

324
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airplanes are not good for us.

325
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So it's not a you problem.

326
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It's an airplane problem.

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It's comfortable.

328
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Airplanes screw up people's backs.

329
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I can have a straight back whenever I want.

330
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Yeah.

331
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No matter my posture.

332
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Well.

333
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All right,

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girls.

335
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Let's start with the questions.

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Okay.

337
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Because this is just,

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this is going to be a three-hour podcast of just like circadian rhythm and posture on plain postures.

339
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You guys are great.

340
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Do you ever feel like you've had to perform being yourselves instead of just living it?

341
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And that's for both of you.

342
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I feel like whenever I did YouTube.

343
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I did.

344
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It just felt like

345
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I had to be very bubbly all the time on YouTube and like be careful with what I said and like sound very proper.

346
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But otherwise,

347
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I didn't really feel like I had to perform in any way.

348
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Why?

349
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Why did you feel that way on YouTube?

350
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I don't know.

351
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It was just back in those years when I did YouTube.

352
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It just everyone was acting a certain way online and I feel like I had to perform like them.

353
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Did it work?

354
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Like,

355
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did you get subscribers and,

356
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you know,

357
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engagement?

358
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I did.

359
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Yeah.

360
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But honestly,

361
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it just,

362
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it didn't feel right.

363
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Was it draining?

364
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Yeah.

365
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Like your battery's like on E.

366
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Yeah.

367
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Right.

368
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Like you're done.

369
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Yeah.

370
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So I kind of just stopped YouTube,

371
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but I am,

372
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I feel like I'm going to get back into it because I feel better now and a lot more confident.

373
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At your own pace and not at the pace of your perceived audience.

374
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Right.

375
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Just to kind of keep your own personal energy to yourself.

376
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Yeah.

377
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And whatever comes out,

378
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comes out naturally as Sophia and not Sophia trying to impress her audience.

379
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Yeah,

380
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you know,

381
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just having my own humor and not other people's.

382
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Yeah.

383
00:10:03.533 --> 00:10:03.853
Farrah.

384
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I mean,

385
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do you think when we went live,

386
00:10:06.940 --> 00:10:09.300
like for live streaming on kick,

387
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that was when you looked at each other and we were like,

388
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this feels almost like reality television.

389
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I mean,

390
00:10:16.643 --> 00:10:20.300
just having the cameras on you for multiple hours feels like that.

391
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But I didn't feel like I had to perform in any way.

392
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No,

393
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I was just acting like myself.

394
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I don't know why for us,

395
00:10:26.323 --> 00:10:26.698
like

396
00:10:27.620 --> 00:10:32.714
YouTube has been a very hard thing for us to navigate.

397
00:10:33.284 --> 00:10:37.547
I even feel like it's like I'm trying to share my life with them on YouTube.

398
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But I don't like to be so scripted,

399
00:10:39.891 --> 00:10:41.773
like hit the like button,

400
00:10:42.133 --> 00:10:42.672
subscribe.

401
00:10:42.711 --> 00:10:45.797
Like we would be at the pool and these kid YouTubers who are,

402
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again,

403
00:10:46.719 --> 00:10:47.281
famous,

404
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millions and millions of viewers.

405
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I just don't want to see my child at a pool reciting like subscribe,

406
00:10:53.648 --> 00:10:54.351
hit the like button.

407
00:10:54.508 --> 00:10:57.633
I'm like he's talking to himself and he is like,

408
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like he's stuck.

409
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He's screwed up.

410
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And.

411
00:11:01.028 --> 00:11:11.939
I just saw so many kids in Hollywood and at different award shows literally not really being taken care of and not really being looked at as like children and human,

412
00:11:12.002 --> 00:11:12.181
like,

413
00:11:12.283 --> 00:11:12.556
I guess,

414
00:11:12.721 --> 00:11:13.822
human beings.

415
00:11:14.361 --> 00:11:14.861
And I'm like,

416
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I don't know what this kid's going to be like when he grows up,

417
00:11:17.486 --> 00:11:22.267
but like to just revolve around verbiage to be successful on YouTube.

418
00:11:22.627 --> 00:11:23.627
That was just something that

419
00:11:24.205 --> 00:11:25.392
I had a hard time with.

420
00:11:25.408 --> 00:11:27.299
And I very much said that to Sophia.

421
00:11:27.439 --> 00:11:27.549
So.

422
00:11:28.284 --> 00:11:28.424
Well,

423
00:11:28.484 --> 00:11:30.966
and look at your personal content that you're putting out.

424
00:11:31.126 --> 00:11:32.829
Do you feel like you have to perform?

425
00:11:33.829 --> 00:11:35.029
I don't really go by anything.

426
00:11:35.212 --> 00:11:36.072
I don't perform.

427
00:11:36.552 --> 00:11:40.919
And I don't think it's really possible for me unless like you give me a teleprompter,

428
00:11:41.060 --> 00:11:43.060
which on television was easy,

429
00:11:43.318 --> 00:11:46.427
especially for my after show specials and hosting and whatever.

430
00:11:46.990 --> 00:11:48.005
Give me a teleprompter.

431
00:11:48.208 --> 00:11:49.693
But that's me being professional.

432
00:11:50.365 --> 00:11:51.333
It's not like I'm

433
00:11:52.130 --> 00:11:54.615
I got like some crazy thing stuck in my head.

434
00:11:55.800 --> 00:11:58.783
That's I think that's different to have a teleprompter is fine.

435
00:11:58.924 --> 00:11:59.123
Yeah.

436
00:11:59.383 --> 00:12:04.088
But to like you were talking about and what a great lesson to learn younger to be like,

437
00:12:04.151 --> 00:12:05.166
I don't want to be that person.

438
00:12:05.791 --> 00:12:06.893
That's exhausting.

439
00:12:07.291 --> 00:12:07.432
Yeah.

440
00:12:07.612 --> 00:12:08.190
To do that.

441
00:12:08.252 --> 00:12:08.455
Hey,

442
00:12:08.674 --> 00:12:08.932
like,

443
00:12:08.994 --> 00:12:09.557
subscribe,

444
00:12:09.612 --> 00:12:09.916
comment.

445
00:12:10.416 --> 00:12:10.838
Fuck you.

446
00:12:11.338 --> 00:12:11.869
Yeah.

447
00:12:11.916 --> 00:12:12.979
No one wants to be that.

448
00:12:13.041 --> 00:12:16.994
And you come off as disingenuous when you're doing that.

449
00:12:17.276 --> 00:12:17.463
Yeah.

450
00:12:17.666 --> 00:12:18.244
Just be you.

451
00:12:19.666 --> 00:12:19.807
Yeah.

452
00:12:19.885 --> 00:12:20.885
It's really I don't know.

453
00:12:21.026 --> 00:12:24.963
I don't know if any other parents get to see like Disney parents.

454
00:12:25.476 --> 00:12:30.040
certain parents in Hollywood or Nickelodeon parents or just YouTuber kid parents.

455
00:12:31.043 --> 00:12:32.083
I really,

456
00:12:32.282 --> 00:12:37.606
really just like feel like now I understand why so many Disney kids come out screwed up.

457
00:12:37.731 --> 00:12:39.833
I really like because I got to see that.

458
00:12:40.387 --> 00:12:40.629
I mean,

459
00:12:40.668 --> 00:12:42.356
I wanted Sophia to enjoy like,

460
00:12:42.997 --> 00:12:43.278
you know,

461
00:12:43.637 --> 00:12:45.012
awards and whatever else,

462
00:12:45.013 --> 00:12:45.231
you know,

463
00:12:45.278 --> 00:12:48.325
other kids get to enjoy that and they go with their parents.

464
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And

465
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I was just like,

466
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this is not what I thought it was,

467
00:12:52.528 --> 00:12:53.465
even for me as a kid.

468
00:12:53.497 --> 00:12:54.262
I didn't get that.

469
00:12:55.228 --> 00:12:55.928
But I was just like,

470
00:12:55.968 --> 00:12:56.169
well,

471
00:12:56.209 --> 00:12:59.210
this is not my cup of tea if it's screwing up kids'

472
00:12:59.289 --> 00:12:59.609
minds.

473
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Because beyond what you formalize and beyond what you repeat every day,

474
00:13:04.710 --> 00:13:09.851
there are so many levels of growing up and change and just to be stunted and stuck,

475
00:13:09.852 --> 00:13:10.890
a stuck point.

476
00:13:11.617 --> 00:13:14.210
Those are traumatizing things that I've even worked through.

477
00:13:14.273 --> 00:13:16.820
So I just I'm very careful about that with my daughter.

478
00:13:20.367 --> 00:13:22.492
How hard is it to parent Sophia these days?

479
00:13:22.716 --> 00:13:23.617
given everything that's going on.

480
00:13:23.957 --> 00:13:25.279
Not that she's a bad kid,

481
00:13:25.359 --> 00:13:25.840
because you're not,

482
00:13:26.621 --> 00:13:27.679
but it's more about like with

483
00:13:28.062 --> 00:13:29.625
AI, internet,

484
00:13:29.922 --> 00:13:30.742
live streaming,

485
00:13:31.187 --> 00:13:31.508
kick,

486
00:13:32.047 --> 00:13:32.750
sub stack.

487
00:13:33.047 --> 00:13:35.445
Like there's 18 million different platforms out there.

488
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It's like my head explodes,

489
00:13:36.633 --> 00:13:36.851
right?

490
00:13:37.148 --> 00:13:39.093
And unless you're snorting

491
00:13:39.500 --> 00:13:41.609
75 milligrams of Adderall every day,

492
00:13:42.359 --> 00:13:42.672
you know,

493
00:13:43.297 --> 00:13:44.172
you're just doomed.

494
00:13:44.718 --> 00:13:45.922
So how do you parent?

495
00:13:47.000 --> 00:13:47.156
Well,

496
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I will say with all of the platforms,

497
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there is one platform,

498
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an AI platform,

499
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You post one thing and it goes out to all of the platforms.

500
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Thank God.

501
00:13:58.123 --> 00:13:59.662
To relieve everybody from that.

502
00:14:00.498 --> 00:14:04.701
But I think I don't have an issue with all the platforms,

503
00:14:04.764 --> 00:14:05.201
Sophia.

504
00:14:06.779 --> 00:14:07.725
To what context?

505
00:14:08.342 --> 00:14:12.701
The context of navigating the waters that she can be herself,

506
00:14:13.029 --> 00:14:18.139
but also protecting her from the nastiness that's also the dark side of social media.

507
00:14:18.623 --> 00:14:18.779
Yeah.

508
00:14:20.812 --> 00:14:21.633
How would you answer that,

509
00:14:21.693 --> 00:14:22.013
Sophia?

510
00:14:22.074 --> 00:14:22.814
How do I do that?

511
00:14:23.935 --> 00:14:24.215
I mean,

512
00:14:24.256 --> 00:14:30.004
I feel like I don't really need her help anymore since I've basically grown up with it my whole life.

513
00:14:30.800 --> 00:14:41.574
And I kind of just taught myself in a way to not be affected by any negative comments or rumors that people would tell me online or in real life.

514
00:14:42.340 --> 00:14:45.855
And I've kind of just grown up from that and I don't really care about that anymore.

515
00:14:46.074 --> 00:14:49.980
And if I do see a negative comment that I really care about.

516
00:14:50.208 --> 00:14:51.730
I would just block them and move on.

517
00:14:52.972 --> 00:14:54.632
There was a big learning lesson of that.

518
00:14:54.952 --> 00:14:59.097
And I think it was the moments where we have some very deep,

519
00:14:59.940 --> 00:15:00.495
hurtful,

520
00:15:01.620 --> 00:15:02.456
transformational,

521
00:15:02.503 --> 00:15:07.347
transitional times in our lives and that we kindly share online.

522
00:15:08.620 --> 00:15:11.160
that have been just abused.

523
00:15:11.381 --> 00:15:17.783
I think one was where our dog just passed away unbeknownst to us.

524
00:15:18.564 --> 00:15:23.064
And we just tried to share that because he was a part of our TV show.

525
00:15:23.080 --> 00:15:24.244
He was a part of our lives.

526
00:15:24.307 --> 00:15:26.517
People loved he was his own character.

527
00:15:27.267 --> 00:15:29.252
And they blamed

528
00:15:29.689 --> 00:15:31.111
Sophia at a time for that.

529
00:15:31.205 --> 00:15:33.642
But they were making it up in comments.

530
00:15:33.830 --> 00:15:36.580
And I think unless you hear something from someone.

531
00:15:36.968 --> 00:15:41.712
whether it's my job profession or if something passed away and how it passed away.

532
00:15:42.071 --> 00:15:45.954
I think people really need to lean into like consent,

533
00:15:46.477 --> 00:15:49.524
what is said and just know like,

534
00:15:50.243 --> 00:15:50.540
again,

535
00:15:50.602 --> 00:15:51.485
people call me a bully,

536
00:15:51.540 --> 00:15:53.087
but I'm going to just say it like it is.

537
00:15:53.727 --> 00:15:55.243
Bullying in comments,

538
00:15:55.821 --> 00:15:57.571
abusive gaslighting,

539
00:15:58.024 --> 00:15:59.305
just straight up lies.

540
00:15:59.384 --> 00:16:00.837
That's abuse in comments.

541
00:16:00.993 --> 00:16:02.352
I just don't tolerate it.

542
00:16:02.368 --> 00:16:05.462
So I think I raised my daughter to just know like,

543
00:16:05.899 --> 00:16:06.102
yeah.

544
00:16:06.468 --> 00:16:10.130
We've been on covers of magazines where they're basically bullying your mom,

545
00:16:10.329 --> 00:16:12.227
saying she doesn't want to have you anymore,

546
00:16:12.751 --> 00:16:16.009
or is lying that I don't want to have you or something.

547
00:16:16.766 --> 00:16:20.712
And they don't care about the human or the lives that they affect.

548
00:16:21.368 --> 00:16:24.509
And I think that beyond social media being dark,

549
00:16:24.587 --> 00:16:28.399
I think that is the darkness in our world completely.

550
00:16:28.899 --> 00:16:34.821
And I think the majority of humans who talk negatively about other humans or label them negatively.

551
00:16:35.300 --> 00:16:36.520
Let's just call it for what it is.

552
00:16:37.001 --> 00:16:38.280
You hate humans.

553
00:16:39.860 --> 00:16:40.903
That is sad for you.

554
00:16:42.302 --> 00:16:43.403
I love humans.

555
00:16:44.098 --> 00:16:51.825
I love the gift that I've been given from being on television with my daughter and the gift of humans and the gift of people and how that's enriched my life.

556
00:16:52.341 --> 00:16:53.137
That's a gift.

557
00:16:53.528 --> 00:16:56.669
And I think like no matter the wrongs of producers,

558
00:16:56.762 --> 00:16:58.450
the wrongs of journalism,

559
00:16:58.544 --> 00:17:00.309
the wrongs of haters on the internet,

560
00:17:00.825 --> 00:17:02.747
I'm gonna still love humans.

561
00:17:03.091 --> 00:17:04.309
I think I wanted my daughter.

562
00:17:04.880 --> 00:17:08.341
to never let people who hate humans affect her.

563
00:17:08.501 --> 00:17:11.280
I think I've said that pretty loudly a couple of times.

564
00:17:12.261 --> 00:17:12.402
Yeah.

565
00:17:13.019 --> 00:17:13.519
I love that.

566
00:17:13.941 --> 00:17:14.761
Are you an optimist,

567
00:17:15.441 --> 00:17:15.800
Sophia?

568
00:17:15.801 --> 00:17:17.784
What does that mean?

569
00:17:18.027 --> 00:17:19.300
That means that you are,

570
00:17:20.222 --> 00:17:24.503
it's like when you have a glass of water and the glass is half full of water and you go,

571
00:17:24.737 --> 00:17:24.878
oh,

572
00:17:25.050 --> 00:17:26.409
I have a glass half full of water,

573
00:17:26.472 --> 00:17:26.581
not,

574
00:17:26.706 --> 00:17:26.909
oh,

575
00:17:26.972 --> 00:17:27.659
it's half empty.

576
00:17:27.722 --> 00:17:28.784
That would be a pessimist,

577
00:17:29.081 --> 00:17:30.441
someone that's more like negative.

578
00:17:30.442 --> 00:17:33.269
An optimist is more positive about their outlook on life.

579
00:17:33.908 --> 00:17:34.028
Yeah,

580
00:17:34.048 --> 00:17:35.290
I would say I am that fully.

581
00:17:35.530 --> 00:17:36.210
I think you are too.

582
00:17:36.451 --> 00:17:36.611
Yeah.

583
00:17:36.732 --> 00:17:38.134
Because of that one right there.

584
00:17:38.333 --> 00:17:38.513
Yeah.

585
00:17:38.751 --> 00:17:39.353
Because of your mama.

586
00:17:39.736 --> 00:17:40.076
Yeah.

587
00:17:40.077 --> 00:17:40.275
Right?

588
00:17:40.294 --> 00:17:43.595
Which is a wonderful mom gift to give to your daughter.

589
00:17:45.017 --> 00:17:45.259
You know,

590
00:17:45.298 --> 00:17:46.501
it's just because I have,

591
00:17:46.517 --> 00:17:46.759
you know,

592
00:17:46.861 --> 00:17:49.064
two kids and a stepdaughter that I consider my daughter.

593
00:17:49.384 --> 00:17:51.259
And I parent every day like it's my last.

594
00:17:51.509 --> 00:17:52.119
Because you just don't know.

595
00:17:52.384 --> 00:17:52.525
Yeah,

596
00:17:52.526 --> 00:17:53.040
you never know.

597
00:17:53.041 --> 00:17:53.228
Right?

598
00:17:53.712 --> 00:17:54.165
As a mom,

599
00:17:54.212 --> 00:17:54.853
you just don't know.

600
00:17:55.072 --> 00:17:55.509
You do not know.

601
00:17:55.510 --> 00:17:56.134
Heaven forbid.

602
00:17:56.306 --> 00:17:56.697
But like,

603
00:17:56.712 --> 00:17:56.994
I'm like,

604
00:17:57.009 --> 00:17:58.165
I could walk out of here and get hit by a bus.

605
00:17:58.620 --> 00:17:59.660
My kids know that.

606
00:17:59.661 --> 00:18:00.120
Seriously.

607
00:18:00.680 --> 00:18:01.201
You just don't know.

608
00:18:01.202 --> 00:18:02.922
But that's what I feel like.

609
00:18:02.923 --> 00:18:06.738
It's like my kids know that I love them very much and I know they love me very much.

610
00:18:06.739 --> 00:18:06.902
Yes.

611
00:18:06.918 --> 00:18:07.942
That's it.

612
00:18:08.004 --> 00:18:09.059
Yeah.

613
00:18:09.060 --> 00:18:09.145
Yeah.

614
00:18:09.146 --> 00:18:10.402
And you don't judge other people.

615
00:18:10.520 --> 00:18:10.863
You just,

616
00:18:10.879 --> 00:18:11.223
you know what,

617
00:18:11.224 --> 00:18:13.746
you're trying to make yourself better than you were yesterday.

618
00:18:14.043 --> 00:18:15.746
You're going to fail miserably at stuff.

619
00:18:15.949 --> 00:18:16.684
That's okay.

620
00:18:17.465 --> 00:18:17.731
You know,

621
00:18:17.746 --> 00:18:23.043
and it's so great to have a support system here that when you do take that gut punch sometimes,

622
00:18:23.418 --> 00:18:24.981
you've got someone to hold you and love you and go,

623
00:18:25.293 --> 00:18:25.465
baby,

624
00:18:25.512 --> 00:18:25.902
it's okay.

625
00:18:26.340 --> 00:18:26.902
Yeah.

626
00:18:26.903 --> 00:18:28.027
And we'll live and fight another day.

627
00:18:28.696 --> 00:18:28.996
Yeah.

628
00:18:28.997 --> 00:18:29.256
You know,

629
00:18:29.456 --> 00:18:33.076
that's pretty cool because a lot of kids don't have that.

630
00:18:33.478 --> 00:18:34.158
Yeah.

631
00:18:34.159 --> 00:18:35.119
And that's kind of neat.

632
00:18:35.120 --> 00:18:37.318
Yeah.

633
00:18:37.615 --> 00:18:38.537
I love her because she's a greaser,

634
00:18:38.538 --> 00:18:39.060
everything I say.

635
00:18:40.615 --> 00:18:41.935
This is going to be a seven-hour podcast.

636
00:18:43.060 --> 00:18:43.959
Jeff and Sophia's show.

637
00:18:44.021 --> 00:18:44.920
This is great.

638
00:18:44.921 --> 00:18:45.342
I love it.

639
00:18:46.264 --> 00:18:46.607
Farrah,

640
00:18:46.623 --> 00:18:47.904
when you look at Sophia now,

641
00:18:48.404 --> 00:18:53.701
what part of yourself do you see the most and what's completely her own?

642
00:18:54.982 --> 00:18:55.779
What part of me?

643
00:18:57.540 --> 00:18:58.480
Does Sophia show,

644
00:18:58.760 --> 00:18:59.220
did you say?

645
00:19:00.420 --> 00:19:05.784
What part of Sophia do you see of you in her the most?

646
00:19:08.284 --> 00:19:08.440
Hmm.

647
00:19:09.682 --> 00:19:10.745
Did you get that?

648
00:19:10.746 --> 00:19:11.221
Yeah.

649
00:19:11.222 --> 00:19:13.120
Okay.

650
00:19:13.121 --> 00:19:15.424
I guess I don't really see much of me in Sophia.

651
00:19:16.096 --> 00:19:16.221
No?

652
00:19:17.518 --> 00:19:17.737
I do.

653
00:19:18.862 --> 00:19:18.987
No,

654
00:19:19.565 --> 00:19:20.065
Jeff.

655
00:19:21.143 --> 00:19:21.831
What do you think?

656
00:19:22.018 --> 00:19:22.143
No?

657
00:19:22.221 --> 00:19:23.284
Well,

658
00:19:23.924 --> 00:19:24.471
what do you think?

659
00:19:25.143 --> 00:19:26.190
Answer your question for your mother.

660
00:19:26.221 --> 00:19:26.721
What do you think?

661
00:19:27.760 --> 00:19:27.981
Um,

662
00:19:29.422 --> 00:19:36.032
is there is there one thing that you is there is there one personality trait that you possess that you think you get from your mom?

663
00:19:36.033 --> 00:19:36.149
Um,

664
00:19:38.993 --> 00:19:40.954
maybe her confidence,

665
00:19:41.235 --> 00:19:41.712
I would say.

666
00:19:42.438 --> 00:19:42.696
I mean,

667
00:19:42.712 --> 00:19:43.891
I guess physical traits.

668
00:19:43.954 --> 00:19:45.297
She doesn't really agree with it.

669
00:19:45.751 --> 00:19:50.141
But I'd say like my eyes in a slight way,

670
00:19:50.219 --> 00:19:54.547
specifically when I'm wearing black eyeliner on my water lid.

671
00:19:54.766 --> 00:19:55.485
Um.

672
00:19:55.996 --> 00:19:57.518
I feel like my eyes kind of look like hers.

673
00:19:57.519 --> 00:19:58.498
Uh-huh.

674
00:19:58.499 --> 00:19:59.620
Like when she was like 16.

675
00:20:00.498 --> 00:20:01.561
I think the first thing you said,

676
00:20:01.581 --> 00:20:02.323
your confidence.

677
00:20:03.041 --> 00:20:03.623
Absolutely.

678
00:20:04.381 --> 00:20:05.202
You get that from mama.

679
00:20:05.730 --> 00:20:06.210
Yeah.

680
00:20:06.231 --> 00:20:07.191
Which is super cool.

681
00:20:07.192 --> 00:20:07.312
Yeah.

682
00:20:08.052 --> 00:20:08.493
That's so,

683
00:20:08.894 --> 00:20:09.054
like,

684
00:20:09.093 --> 00:20:10.015
double down on that,

685
00:20:10.054 --> 00:20:10.374
man.

686
00:20:10.554 --> 00:20:11.694
Double down on that.

687
00:20:11.757 --> 00:20:13.237
That's so awesome.

688
00:20:13.257 --> 00:20:15.116
Yeah.

689
00:20:15.780 --> 00:20:20.827
What's one thing that you think is completely like your own thing that's not your mom at all?

690
00:20:20.983 --> 00:20:21.148
It's

691
00:20:21.483 --> 00:20:23.382
Sophia and nobody else's and you own it.

692
00:20:24.741 --> 00:20:25.335
Everything.

693
00:20:25.585 --> 00:20:26.163
Everything else?

694
00:20:26.273 --> 00:20:28.398
Physically and online,

695
00:20:28.554 --> 00:20:28.898
everything.

696
00:20:28.899 --> 00:20:29.710
Yeah.

697
00:20:29.711 --> 00:20:30.179
I love that.

698
00:20:30.741 --> 00:20:30.851
Yeah.

699
00:20:30.852 --> 00:20:31.241
I love that.

700
00:20:32.534 --> 00:20:32.874
Sophia,

701
00:20:32.955 --> 00:20:39.320
what's one thing your mom has overcome that made you proud in a way fans would never understand?

702
00:20:43.042 --> 00:20:57.300
I think dealing with drama and hate and specifically overcoming family problems and generational holdbacks,

703
00:20:57.472 --> 00:20:58.019
I would say.

704
00:20:59.503 --> 00:21:00.488
I feel like she's...

705
00:21:03.054 --> 00:21:05.036
Like,

706
00:21:05.056 --> 00:21:05.317
sorry,

707
00:21:05.997 --> 00:21:06.558
my words,

708
00:21:06.599 --> 00:21:09.802
like I have a very hard time finding the right words sometimes.

709
00:21:09.803 --> 00:21:09.860
Hey,

710
00:21:09.861 --> 00:21:10.102
look at me.

711
00:21:10.103 --> 00:21:10.263
Yeah,

712
00:21:10.264 --> 00:21:10.641
just take your time.

713
00:21:10.642 --> 00:21:10.942
Look at me.

714
00:21:11.438 --> 00:21:11.923
You're fine.

715
00:21:12.126 --> 00:21:12.360
Yeah.

716
00:21:12.361 --> 00:21:13.102
And you're doing great.

717
00:21:13.103 --> 00:21:14.563
And you take as much time as you want to.

718
00:21:15.743 --> 00:21:16.087
I just,

719
00:21:16.227 --> 00:21:32.329
I feel very proud of her for not acting like her family and the negative parts of them and moving on from them and not really going back to them and feeling like she needs them in her life.

720
00:21:32.890 --> 00:21:37.994
Because I feel like that's a very toxic thing after everything that they've done to her and,

721
00:21:38.115 --> 00:21:38.435
I guess,

722
00:21:38.677 --> 00:21:38.935
us.

723
00:21:40.236 --> 00:21:41.818
So I'm very proud of her for that.

724
00:21:42.380 --> 00:21:42.763
Thank you,

725
00:21:42.857 --> 00:21:43.201
Sophia.

726
00:21:43.857 --> 00:21:44.802
I really appreciate it.

727
00:21:44.803 --> 00:21:45.466
That was really sweet.

728
00:21:45.560 --> 00:21:46.646
I really appreciate it.

729
00:21:46.647 --> 00:21:47.521
That was really sweet.

730
00:21:49.279 --> 00:21:49.919
As a parent,

731
00:21:50.591 --> 00:21:57.029
the best thing we can do is make our kids better versions of us.

732
00:21:58.232 --> 00:21:58.372
Yeah.

733
00:21:58.497 --> 00:21:59.404
That's all we can do.

734
00:22:00.013 --> 00:22:00.154
And,

735
00:22:00.169 --> 00:22:00.419
I mean.

736
00:22:00.634 --> 00:22:01.635
My parents tried it with me.

737
00:22:01.916 --> 00:22:02.777
I was still in therapy.

738
00:22:03.156 --> 00:22:03.637
It's okay.

739
00:22:04.117 --> 00:22:06.480
My goal is to have my kids in less therapy than I was.

740
00:22:07.101 --> 00:22:07.461
That's it.

741
00:22:08.222 --> 00:22:08.523
You know?

742
00:22:09.019 --> 00:22:10.824
And so for you to say that,

743
00:22:11.262 --> 00:22:13.504
to know that you've seen your mom's power,

744
00:22:14.426 --> 00:22:15.629
and she's a powerful woman,

745
00:22:15.926 --> 00:22:17.433
but also she's really freaking cool.

746
00:22:17.793 --> 00:22:17.949
Yeah.

747
00:22:18.058 --> 00:22:19.996
Because she does it with grace,

748
00:22:20.199 --> 00:22:21.308
how she handles herself.

749
00:22:21.480 --> 00:22:23.152
And some say it's bullying.

750
00:22:23.355 --> 00:22:24.355
I say it's confidence.

751
00:22:25.402 --> 00:22:26.246
It's who she is.

752
00:22:26.996 --> 00:22:29.808
And that's something that you have as well.

753
00:22:30.318 --> 00:22:31.320
And I guarantee you,

754
00:22:31.499 --> 00:22:37.964
your mom beams every time she sees you acting confidently because she knows that that's something she's passed on to you.

755
00:22:38.429 --> 00:22:38.585
Yeah.

756
00:22:38.945 --> 00:22:39.226
You know?

757
00:22:39.906 --> 00:22:40.031
Yeah.

758
00:22:40.032 --> 00:22:40.570
And that's neat.

759
00:22:41.351 --> 00:22:41.507
Yeah,

760
00:22:41.508 --> 00:22:41.788
it is.

761
00:22:42.351 --> 00:22:46.156
So you can go ahead and have six dinners tonight now and celebrate your country.

762
00:22:46.157 --> 00:22:49.234
You can confidently order 17 mozzarella sticks if you want to somewhere.

763
00:22:49.235 --> 00:22:50.452
Let's go.

764
00:22:50.796 --> 00:22:51.593
For both of you,

765
00:22:52.124 --> 00:22:54.156
what does peace look like for you now?

766
00:22:54.765 --> 00:22:56.359
Crowd surfing and rave nights.

767
00:22:57.171 --> 00:22:57.359
Yeah.

768
00:22:58.078 --> 00:22:58.278
Yeah,

769
00:22:58.578 --> 00:23:01.078
I'd say traveling a lot.

770
00:23:01.938 --> 00:23:02.840
That's peace.

771
00:23:03.500 --> 00:23:04.281
Sleeping in.

772
00:23:04.961 --> 00:23:05.680
That's peace.

773
00:23:07.582 --> 00:23:10.684
A mom not ever waking you up and driving you crazy.

774
00:23:11.020 --> 00:23:11.801
That's peace.

775
00:23:12.098 --> 00:23:12.363
Yes,

776
00:23:12.465 --> 00:23:12.699
yes.

777
00:23:12.762 --> 00:23:13.082
I mean,

778
00:23:13.277 --> 00:23:15.996
sometimes you do wake me up early in the morning,

779
00:23:16.059 --> 00:23:16.246
but,

780
00:23:16.309 --> 00:23:16.574
you know.

781
00:23:16.902 --> 00:23:17.621
How early is early?

782
00:23:18.168 --> 00:23:18.902
Like 9 a.m.

783
00:23:19.418 --> 00:23:19.559
Oh,

784
00:23:19.668 --> 00:23:20.277
it's so early.

785
00:23:20.309 --> 00:23:20.496
Yeah.

786
00:23:21.090 --> 00:23:21.637
Yeah.

787
00:23:21.638 --> 00:23:21.684
Oh,

788
00:23:21.685 --> 00:23:22.184
my good hell.

789
00:23:22.185 --> 00:23:22.809
It's terrible.

790
00:23:23.907 --> 00:23:38.603
I can see she has bags in her eyes I can see it's terrible when you get like tea bags or something or cucumbers and then put those on oh my gosh yeah um I feel like peace is getting vampire fangs uh getting tattoos piercings

791
00:23:38.604 --> 00:23:53.181
um my mom allowing me to do the things that I want to do in life I feel like that's peace yeah what's your definition of peace miss Farrah peace to me which I've worked so hard to have in my life Thank you.

792
00:23:53.867 --> 00:23:58.670
Like I went to a trauma center to get to that because my life was very unpeaceful.

793
00:24:01.174 --> 00:24:02.877
Not that probably everybody else felt that,

794
00:24:02.955 --> 00:24:06.135
but it was just like very unsettling within myself.

795
00:24:06.916 --> 00:24:10.963
I think peace to me means everything in the world.

796
00:24:11.338 --> 00:24:16.869
And peace looks like me waking up to five minute meditations.

797
00:24:18.432 --> 00:24:20.260
I do midday meditations.

798
00:24:20.698 --> 00:24:22.340
And I do nighttime meditations.

799
00:24:22.360 --> 00:24:25.223
And sometimes I just let the whole night be frequencies.

800
00:24:26.122 --> 00:24:27.587
And I think sound healing,

801
00:24:27.626 --> 00:24:29.805
frequency healing is peaceful.

802
00:24:30.430 --> 00:24:30.790
I mean,

803
00:24:31.829 --> 00:24:32.188
I don't know.

804
00:24:32.227 --> 00:24:35.876
My house is so peaceful now that I never thought I'd have a peaceful house like this.

805
00:24:36.352 --> 00:24:37.680
My phone is so peaceful now.

806
00:24:38.040 --> 00:24:39.837
I never thought I'd have a peaceful phone like this.

807
00:24:39.899 --> 00:24:42.055
Like I am just blessed every day.

808
00:24:42.352 --> 00:24:42.977
Like literally.

809
00:24:43.102 --> 00:24:46.009
Is your home like Superman has his fortress of solitude?

810
00:24:46.102 --> 00:24:48.149
Is that your house is like your fortress of solitude?

811
00:24:48.227 --> 00:24:48.399
Yeah.

812
00:24:48.571 --> 00:24:49.243
Like when you get home,

813
00:24:49.244 --> 00:24:49.524
it's like.

814
00:24:50.274 --> 00:24:50.414
Yeah,

815
00:24:50.594 --> 00:24:53.017
I like to literally not have anyone in it.

816
00:24:53.236 --> 00:25:01.443
And I think it's because I probably let too many people in my home growing up when I had Sophia early on.

817
00:25:02.146 --> 00:25:04.826
And those people ended up being very,

818
00:25:04.966 --> 00:25:05.248
very,

819
00:25:05.451 --> 00:25:06.435
very hurtful,

820
00:25:06.795 --> 00:25:07.545
toxic.

821
00:25:08.218 --> 00:25:09.038
And really just hurting,

822
00:25:09.158 --> 00:25:10.259
breaking apart my home.

823
00:25:11.218 --> 00:25:11.339
So,

824
00:25:11.378 --> 00:25:11.558
yeah,

825
00:25:11.759 --> 00:25:13.781
my home is very amazing now.

826
00:25:14.738 --> 00:25:15.300
That's wonderful.

827
00:25:15.398 --> 00:25:15.558
Yeah.

828
00:25:16.159 --> 00:25:19.281
Because you know who you're setting the example for to have a peaceful home as well?

829
00:25:20.679 --> 00:25:21.062
Right there.

830
00:25:21.320 --> 00:25:21.460
Yeah,

831
00:25:21.499 --> 00:25:22.820
I hope she has an amazing house.

832
00:25:22.859 --> 00:25:23.898
She will.

833
00:25:23.899 --> 00:25:24.577
She can't wait.

834
00:25:25.281 --> 00:25:26.265
I can't wait.

835
00:25:26.609 --> 00:25:29.546
Are you like dying to get out and get your own place and do your own thing?

836
00:25:29.843 --> 00:25:29.968
Well,

837
00:25:29.984 --> 00:25:30.202
yes.

838
00:25:30.203 --> 00:25:30.781
God's house.

839
00:25:30.782 --> 00:25:31.796
Mostly because

840
00:25:32.281 --> 00:25:33.390
I wanted to be like,

841
00:25:34.468 --> 00:25:35.796
what's the thing that we're going to tonight?

842
00:25:35.827 --> 00:25:36.484
A haunted house.

843
00:25:37.006 --> 00:25:37.126
Yeah,

844
00:25:37.166 --> 00:25:38.547
I want it to be like a haunted house,

845
00:25:39.108 --> 00:25:39.908
but it's my house,

846
00:25:39.909 --> 00:25:40.129
you know?

847
00:25:40.469 --> 00:25:40.629
Like,

848
00:25:40.670 --> 00:25:43.614
I want fog machines in them.

849
00:25:44.473 --> 00:25:45.934
Every wall is going to be painted black.

850
00:25:46.653 --> 00:25:48.574
I just want to decorate the whole thing spooky,

851
00:25:48.598 --> 00:25:50.520
and it's going to be Halloween 24-7 there.

852
00:25:50.817 --> 00:25:51.504
Yeah.

853
00:25:51.505 --> 00:25:51.918
That's my dream.

854
00:25:51.919 --> 00:25:52.262
You'll have,

855
00:25:52.278 --> 00:25:52.403
like,

856
00:25:52.404 --> 00:25:53.567
the coolest house on the block.

857
00:25:53.785 --> 00:25:54.035
Yes.

858
00:25:54.207 --> 00:25:54.348
Like,

859
00:25:54.349 --> 00:25:55.660
kids will come trick-or-treating every night.

860
00:25:56.332 --> 00:25:56.660
Yes.

861
00:25:57.051 --> 00:25:58.114
And you'll probably have candy for them,

862
00:25:58.115 --> 00:25:58.520
so it'll be fun.

863
00:25:58.521 --> 00:25:58.582
Yes.

864
00:25:58.583 --> 00:25:58.832
Yes,

865
00:25:58.833 --> 00:25:59.989
I will.

866
00:25:59.990 --> 00:26:00.364
That's awesome.

867
00:26:00.365 --> 00:26:03.879
Sophia does decor of goth Halloween,

868
00:26:03.910 --> 00:26:04.098
like,

869
00:26:04.176 --> 00:26:04.707
all year round.

870
00:26:04.754 --> 00:26:04.910
Like,

871
00:26:04.957 --> 00:26:06.035
her room.

872
00:26:06.610 --> 00:26:07.951
Is that which I love,

873
00:26:08.672 --> 00:26:10.994
but it's not going to go in the entirety of my home.

874
00:26:12.498 --> 00:26:13.717
How long have you had your goth look?

875
00:26:17.818 --> 00:26:26.474
I'd say I was starting to go into this look like in 2023 really is when I started doing that.

876
00:26:28.256 --> 00:26:28.365
Yeah,

877
00:26:28.412 --> 00:26:28.615
I mean,

878
00:26:28.693 --> 00:26:30.037
it's been a transition.

879
00:26:30.068 --> 00:26:34.318
I'm still kind of transitioning with my makeup skills,

880
00:26:34.553 --> 00:26:34.771
but.

881
00:26:35.574 --> 00:26:36.315
I'm almost there.

882
00:26:36.636 --> 00:26:37.876
I'm almost at the finish line.

883
00:26:37.917 --> 00:26:38.477
But yeah,

884
00:26:38.638 --> 00:26:43.782
I feel like in like 2021,

885
00:26:43.783 --> 00:26:45.962
that's when I started really changing up my look.

886
00:26:46.782 --> 00:26:52.548
And I found what goth people were like in 2022.

887
00:26:52.549 --> 00:26:57.954
But I feel like I was always just scared to take like that big leap into like going into the dark aesthetic.

888
00:26:58.657 --> 00:26:59.813
I don't know why I was just like,

889
00:27:00.923 --> 00:27:02.641
do I really want to do this yet?

890
00:27:02.766 --> 00:27:03.079
Or like,

891
00:27:03.126 --> 00:27:03.704
should I just keep

892
00:27:03.870 --> 00:27:19.368
dyeing my hair all these colors so recently in september i decided to dye my hair orange neon orange and my hairstylist was like you better not go back to black or else your hair will be damaged and i was like yeah like

893
00:27:19.384 --> 00:27:32.977
i'm gonna go back to black by probably the end of this month honestly and then probably go back to vibrant hair what reactions you get from the public from your look um they were like are you a devil worshiper

894
00:27:33.914 --> 00:27:34.815
And stuff like that.

895
00:27:34.856 --> 00:27:37.197
And I was like,

896
00:27:37.217 --> 00:27:37.518
no.

897
00:27:37.519 --> 00:27:38.660
My daughter goes to church.

898
00:27:39.418 --> 00:27:39.598
Like,

899
00:27:40.082 --> 00:27:40.879
I'm Christian.

900
00:27:41.902 --> 00:27:42.504
And actually,

901
00:27:42.660 --> 00:27:45.645
this cross just means eternal life.

902
00:27:46.488 --> 00:27:48.285
It's not devil worshipping or anything.

903
00:27:48.286 --> 00:27:48.551
That's great.

904
00:27:48.949 --> 00:27:49.106
Yeah.

905
00:27:49.590 --> 00:27:51.488
But a lot of people had something to say,

906
00:27:51.551 --> 00:27:52.848
but I honestly couldn't care less.

907
00:27:53.660 --> 00:27:53.770
And,

908
00:27:53.771 --> 00:27:53.973
you know,

909
00:27:54.020 --> 00:27:55.535
sometimes my mom does ask me,

910
00:27:55.582 --> 00:27:55.801
like,

911
00:27:56.551 --> 00:27:58.754
what would so-and-so think of this before,

912
00:27:58.817 --> 00:27:58.957
like,

913
00:27:58.973 --> 00:28:00.317
I make a really big decision about,

914
00:28:00.348 --> 00:28:00.457
like,

915
00:28:00.458 --> 00:28:01.254
a piercing or something?

916
00:28:01.285 --> 00:28:01.801
And I'm just like,

917
00:28:02.488 --> 00:28:03.442
I don't care about anyone.

918
00:28:03.598 --> 00:28:03.918
things,

919
00:28:04.499 --> 00:28:04.999
honestly,

920
00:28:05.520 --> 00:28:06.481
no matter who it is.

921
00:28:06.561 --> 00:28:06.901
I just,

922
00:28:07.081 --> 00:28:12.526
I want to be myself and I want to keep growing and become who I want to be and look like.

923
00:28:12.706 --> 00:28:13.284
You live for you.

924
00:28:13.706 --> 00:28:13.885
Yes.

925
00:28:14.010 --> 00:28:14.206
Right.

926
00:28:15.268 --> 00:28:15.393
Yeah.

927
00:28:15.409 --> 00:28:16.190
And that's all that matters.

928
00:28:16.549 --> 00:28:16.815
Yeah.

929
00:28:16.816 --> 00:28:16.995
Right.

930
00:28:16.996 --> 00:28:18.034
As long as you're not harming yourself,

931
00:28:18.073 --> 00:28:18.549
which you're not,

932
00:28:19.721 --> 00:28:19.956
you know,

933
00:28:20.127 --> 00:28:20.534
and you have a,

934
00:28:20.581 --> 00:28:21.581
you have a great teacher,

935
00:28:22.456 --> 00:28:22.581
uh,

936
00:28:22.582 --> 00:28:22.737
you know,

937
00:28:22.738 --> 00:28:24.377
to guide you right over there,

938
00:28:25.284 --> 00:28:25.659
which is you,

939
00:28:25.815 --> 00:28:26.143
by the way,

940
00:28:26.581 --> 00:28:26.815
it's you.

941
00:28:27.987 --> 00:28:29.299
Yeah.

942
00:28:29.331 --> 00:28:29.581
It's you,

943
00:28:29.582 --> 00:28:31.752
my little friend.

944
00:28:32.578 --> 00:28:34.681
applaud you for your independence.

945
00:28:34.682 --> 00:28:36.201
Yeah.

946
00:28:36.421 --> 00:28:44.166
I don't think that many young ladies would do what you do and pull it off and you do it and you do it with grace.

947
00:28:45.494 --> 00:28:46.314
And that's pretty cool.

948
00:28:46.315 --> 00:28:47.251
Thank you.

949
00:28:47.252 --> 00:28:47.673
You're welcome.

950
00:28:48.470 --> 00:28:48.931
I like that.

951
00:28:48.978 --> 00:28:49.291
I just,

952
00:28:49.634 --> 00:28:51.775
cause you put out just a really cool vibe.

953
00:28:51.776 --> 00:28:53.431
Thank you.

954
00:28:53.432 --> 00:28:54.025
You know,

955
00:28:54.026 --> 00:28:54.134
it's,

956
00:28:54.212 --> 00:28:54.337
it's,

957
00:28:54.338 --> 00:28:54.806
it's wonderful.

958
00:28:54.822 --> 00:28:56.744
And it's more kids should,

959
00:28:56.806 --> 00:28:58.056
I say your kid is cause you're 16.

960
00:28:58.103 --> 00:28:58.509
I'm Sorry,

961
00:28:58.510 --> 00:28:59.728
I don't mean to date you.

962
00:29:00.212 --> 00:29:00.728
But it's like.

963
00:29:01.694 --> 00:29:18.008
you you're far more mature than you know than people twice your age they're more concerned about like oh my god what i look like today and you know the whole thing like no no you're just like this is me and if you don't like me i don't care because i'm doing this for me yeah

964
00:29:18.337 --> 00:29:29.868
and that's it yeah like i really love supporting sophia like even if we were like going to whole foods and she's wearing like her you know i don't even know seven inch combat boots and like whatever

965
00:29:30.490 --> 00:29:36.332
Like I've had men just start like laughing or just being disrespectful.

966
00:29:37.071 --> 00:29:37.653
And I'm like,

967
00:29:38.250 --> 00:29:40.231
you're laughing because you have no style.

968
00:29:40.536 --> 00:29:43.911
You're laughing because someone took a chance today and you haven't.

969
00:29:44.129 --> 00:29:44.395
Like,

970
00:29:44.911 --> 00:29:45.036
so

971
00:29:45.434 --> 00:29:46.692
I just feel like

972
00:29:47.832 --> 00:29:51.395
I love my daughter and how she expresses herself because I was.

973
00:29:52.476 --> 00:29:54.939
in this cookie cutter public school,

974
00:29:55.499 --> 00:29:55.739
you know,

975
00:29:56.200 --> 00:29:57.341
looking like a cheerleader,

976
00:29:58.001 --> 00:29:58.243
you know,

977
00:29:58.384 --> 00:29:59.481
matching bows,

978
00:29:59.564 --> 00:30:01.845
doing all this like herd mentality,

979
00:30:02.024 --> 00:30:03.751
like perfectionist,

980
00:30:04.587 --> 00:30:06.751
like that's where perfection addiction started.

981
00:30:06.790 --> 00:30:09.251
It was like fitting into a herd,

982
00:30:09.673 --> 00:30:10.735
looking all the same.

983
00:30:11.173 --> 00:30:15.017
And I think I just kind of started stripping that off my identity with identity work.

984
00:30:15.579 --> 00:30:20.188
And that's why I love supporting my daughter who knows what she wants.

985
00:30:20.660 --> 00:30:22.180
And it doesn't matter what everybody else,

986
00:30:22.540 --> 00:30:22.780
you know,

987
00:30:22.860 --> 00:30:23.401
wants for her.

988
00:30:23.580 --> 00:30:25.022
Like they don't live in our lives.

989
00:30:25.120 --> 00:30:26.580
And I think that's super important.

990
00:30:26.643 --> 00:30:31.264
So a lot of my other friends who have gothic daughters,

991
00:30:31.866 --> 00:30:32.881
homeschooled children,

992
00:30:33.827 --> 00:30:40.225
they often say like the reaction that they get is that their kid doesn't believe in God or their kid is satanic.

993
00:30:40.944 --> 00:30:46.662
And I'm like aesthetics have nothing to do with your spirituality or the religion you choose.

994
00:30:47.176 --> 00:30:48.818
Or like your faith or your belief,

995
00:30:48.918 --> 00:30:50.139
your relationship with God,

996
00:30:50.200 --> 00:30:51.799
like your aesthetics is just,

997
00:30:51.920 --> 00:30:53.061
it's a fashion choice.

998
00:30:56.323 --> 00:30:58.143
It's just whenever somebody,

999
00:30:58.190 --> 00:30:59.690
and this is just a psychological fact.

1000
00:31:00.393 --> 00:31:03.127
If somebody is laughing at you,

1001
00:31:03.471 --> 00:31:03.752
at you,

1002
00:31:03.987 --> 00:31:04.252
at me,

1003
00:31:04.377 --> 00:31:04.690
whatever,

1004
00:31:05.346 --> 00:31:05.955
they're sad.

1005
00:31:07.112 --> 00:31:10.362
And it's their sadness is being masked by anger.

1006
00:31:10.987 --> 00:31:13.580
And the anger is being molded into,

1007
00:31:14.127 --> 00:31:14.362
you know,

1008
00:31:14.565 --> 00:31:16.049
bullying and being abrasive.

1009
00:31:16.776 --> 00:31:17.517
That's what it is.

1010
00:31:17.857 --> 00:31:20.239
If you peel all that stuff back inside,

1011
00:31:20.280 --> 00:31:22.442
they're super unhappy with who they are.

1012
00:31:22.762 --> 00:31:26.048
I know they would want to wear bold outfits.

1013
00:31:26.049 --> 00:31:28.649
They just haven't taken that step yet.

1014
00:31:29.805 --> 00:31:31.313
My son is nine,

1015
00:31:31.329 --> 00:31:33.008
and he's a redhead with blue eyes,

1016
00:31:33.009 --> 00:31:33.618
and he's the best.

1017
00:31:33.774 --> 00:31:37.899
And he's going as Jason for Halloween with a hockey mask and all that,

1018
00:31:38.258 --> 00:31:38.524
right?

1019
00:31:38.915 --> 00:31:39.618
And so I'm like,

1020
00:31:39.962 --> 00:31:40.274
do it.

1021
00:31:40.415 --> 00:31:40.633
Let's go.

1022
00:31:40.634 --> 00:31:40.899
Jack,

1023
00:31:41.087 --> 00:31:41.383
do it.

1024
00:31:41.462 --> 00:31:41.899
Let's go.

1025
00:31:42.274 --> 00:31:42.758
Let's go.

1026
00:31:42.962 --> 00:31:44.383
I'm taking him trick-or-treating in our neighborhood.

1027
00:31:44.540 --> 00:31:45.665
and he has like a

1028
00:31:46.108 --> 00:31:48.770
like a machete with like fake blood on liquid on it already.

1029
00:31:48.972 --> 00:31:49.972
I had that last year,

1030
00:31:49.991 --> 00:31:50.433
I swear.

1031
00:31:50.491 --> 00:31:51.214
So he can't,

1032
00:31:51.835 --> 00:31:52.475
at his school,

1033
00:31:52.495 --> 00:31:54.179
they won't let him bring like weapons.

1034
00:31:54.499 --> 00:31:56.077
So he's bringing a lightsaber instead.

1035
00:31:56.640 --> 00:31:56.757
Why?

1036
00:31:56.758 --> 00:31:58.577
He's going to be Jason with a lightsaber.

1037
00:31:59.061 --> 00:31:59.522
And I said,

1038
00:31:59.819 --> 00:32:00.179
I said,

1039
00:32:00.280 --> 00:32:01.265
Jack Jeffrey Fargo,

1040
00:32:01.280 --> 00:32:03.444
if anybody can pull off Jason with a lightsaber,

1041
00:32:03.460 --> 00:32:03.850
it's you,

1042
00:32:03.913 --> 00:32:04.522
my little love.

1043
00:32:04.523 --> 00:32:05.100
Yeah,

1044
00:32:05.101 --> 00:32:05.382
let's go.

1045
00:32:05.413 --> 00:32:09.694
Go forth and kill any Sith Lords that you see during first period.

1046
00:32:10.413 --> 00:32:11.069
Take care of them.

1047
00:32:11.288 --> 00:32:12.007
Oh my God.

1048
00:32:12.054 --> 00:32:12.679
Cut them in half.

1049
00:32:12.882 --> 00:32:13.054
Yeah.

1050
00:32:13.210 --> 00:32:15.491
I wonder what the teachers think about that verbiage.

1051
00:32:15.736 --> 00:32:16.317
I can't wait.

1052
00:32:16.357 --> 00:32:17.078
I'll get a call.

1053
00:32:17.079 --> 00:32:18.539
I'm sure I'll get a call.

1054
00:32:18.540 --> 00:32:19.080
But it's just,

1055
00:32:19.580 --> 00:32:20.920
it's these days.

1056
00:32:21.021 --> 00:32:25.830
And then something I want to talk about with you guys is we live in such a critical world now.

1057
00:32:25.845 --> 00:32:27.228
And with social media,

1058
00:32:27.369 --> 00:32:29.853
with judgmental society that we're in,

1059
00:32:31.134 --> 00:32:35.674
how hard is it to fly your own flag and do your own thing and be your own person?

1060
00:32:37.595 --> 00:32:38.502
It's not hard for me.

1061
00:32:39.564 --> 00:32:39.705
Yeah,

1062
00:32:39.767 --> 00:32:43.377
I think my daughter sees me like be the one person in the room.

1063
00:32:43.908 --> 00:32:48.049
Ganged up against like 20 other people on my calls and my work and my school.

1064
00:32:48.627 --> 00:32:48.870
Yeah.

1065
00:32:49.588 --> 00:32:52.870
So I stand very firm in what I believe in.

1066
00:32:54.651 --> 00:32:57.010
So speaking of firmness and what you believe in,

1067
00:32:57.011 --> 00:32:59.674
you guys talk politics at all or do you not care about politics at all?

1068
00:32:59.675 --> 00:33:01.065
So they always ask me about politics.

1069
00:33:01.066 --> 00:33:03.034
I personally do not talk about politics.

1070
00:33:03.049 --> 00:33:04.096
She doesn't talk about it.

1071
00:33:04.205 --> 00:33:04.674
I don't.

1072
00:33:05.018 --> 00:33:05.237
Okay.

1073
00:33:05.440 --> 00:33:05.596
Okay.

1074
00:33:06.112 --> 00:33:06.471
That's fine.

1075
00:33:06.940 --> 00:33:07.518
I respect that.

1076
00:33:08.518 --> 00:33:08.940
My daughter.

1077
00:33:09.893 --> 00:33:10.487
Full disclosure.

1078
00:33:10.737 --> 00:33:11.299
My daughter.

1079
00:33:11.300 --> 00:33:11.409
I'm.

1080
00:33:11.796 --> 00:33:12.517
I'm more moderate,

1081
00:33:12.557 --> 00:33:12.797
right?

1082
00:33:12.858 --> 00:33:14.639
My daughter is over here.

1083
00:33:14.918 --> 00:33:15.459
Still love her.

1084
00:33:15.840 --> 00:33:16.121
I said,

1085
00:33:16.160 --> 00:33:16.582
honey bunny.

1086
00:33:16.942 --> 00:33:17.281
It's okay.

1087
00:33:17.500 --> 00:33:18.121
I'm Gen X.

1088
00:33:18.543 --> 00:33:21.129
We can still have conversations and disagree.

1089
00:33:21.543 --> 00:33:24.871
I still love you with the heat of a thousand suns.

1090
00:33:25.012 --> 00:33:25.668
I love you.

1091
00:33:26.012 --> 00:33:26.348
Yeah.

1092
00:33:26.349 --> 00:33:27.293
And it's okay if we,

1093
00:33:27.957 --> 00:33:32.895
that's the part of social media I can't stand is if we disagree on social,

1094
00:33:32.942 --> 00:33:33.660
you're dead to me.

1095
00:33:33.692 --> 00:33:34.832
I want nothing to do with you.

1096
00:33:35.020 --> 00:33:35.160
No.

1097
00:33:35.817 --> 00:33:37.895
It's about keeping dialogue going.

1098
00:33:38.004 --> 00:33:39.035
Let's keep talking.

1099
00:33:39.582 --> 00:33:39.707
Yeah.

1100
00:33:40.056 --> 00:33:40.336
Right.

1101
00:33:40.377 --> 00:33:40.577
I mean,

1102
00:33:40.917 --> 00:33:41.438
that's all.

1103
00:33:41.879 --> 00:33:42.658
It's totally OK.

1104
00:33:44.422 --> 00:33:45.320
I think you're wonderful.

1105
00:33:45.563 --> 00:33:47.422
And so whatever your political beliefs are,

1106
00:33:48.164 --> 00:33:49.125
I back up 100 percent.

1107
00:33:49.164 --> 00:33:49.844
I'm Team Sophia.

1108
00:33:50.125 --> 00:33:50.805
I'll fly that flag.

1109
00:33:51.406 --> 00:33:51.524
OK.

1110
00:33:52.570 --> 00:33:52.930
Seriously,

1111
00:33:53.430 --> 00:33:58.758
I just think that more people need to be able to be open about disagreements.

1112
00:33:58.914 --> 00:33:59.070
Yeah,

1113
00:33:59.258 --> 00:33:59.555
it's OK.

1114
00:33:59.883 --> 00:34:00.149
I mean,

1115
00:34:00.320 --> 00:34:01.664
so like growing up for me,

1116
00:34:01.820 --> 00:34:02.461
for instance,

1117
00:34:03.086 --> 00:34:07.055
my grandparents would go and talk about politics at the mall.

1118
00:34:07.956 --> 00:34:09.878
And I'd go with them and I'd enjoy it.

1119
00:34:10.039 --> 00:34:12.162
And I love just looking at all these conversations.

1120
00:34:12.181 --> 00:34:14.060
I love figuring out what I believed in.

1121
00:34:14.701 --> 00:34:15.044
I would,

1122
00:34:15.162 --> 00:34:15.423
you know,

1123
00:34:15.544 --> 00:34:17.302
ask my grandfather questions.

1124
00:34:17.724 --> 00:34:18.505
We would have like,

1125
00:34:18.506 --> 00:34:20.208
I think his name was Rush Limbaugh.

1126
00:34:21.669 --> 00:34:22.708
There were some really,

1127
00:34:23.115 --> 00:34:31.412
really good men on the radio growing up who would talk about every kind of side of politics so you could have reasoning.

1128
00:34:32.099 --> 00:34:36.599
And I think when you don't have those voices that people have tried to hush,

1129
00:34:36.865 --> 00:34:37.318
cancel.

1130
00:34:37.600 --> 00:34:38.701
and quit those people,

1131
00:34:39.322 --> 00:34:44.105
you don't really get a full rounded sense of politics and your views.

1132
00:34:44.246 --> 00:34:46.250
And I think like even at church this year,

1133
00:34:47.172 --> 00:34:49.273
I think it was the presidential election.

1134
00:34:49.901 --> 00:34:50.622
Church this year,

1135
00:34:51.322 --> 00:34:55.186
the pastors were bringing in like your Christianity into how you vote.

1136
00:34:55.486 --> 00:34:56.447
They didn't want the church,

1137
00:34:56.467 --> 00:34:56.748
you know,

1138
00:34:57.428 --> 00:34:58.693
not being able to come together.

1139
00:34:58.772 --> 00:34:59.834
You can have your side.

1140
00:34:59.928 --> 00:35:01.350
Everybody can have their own thing.

1141
00:35:02.115 --> 00:35:02.795
And this is,

1142
00:35:03.256 --> 00:35:05.373
but we're going to just talk about normal reasoning,

1143
00:35:05.858 --> 00:35:06.740
normal beliefs.

1144
00:35:07.272 --> 00:35:08.647
If your church beliefs are in there.

1145
00:35:09.365 --> 00:35:09.756
And

1146
00:35:10.928 --> 00:35:12.100
I thought that was beautiful.

1147
00:35:12.162 --> 00:35:13.709
I shared it with Sophia and I was like,

1148
00:35:13.710 --> 00:35:17.647
you have to have a way of sorting through things and reasoning.

1149
00:35:17.709 --> 00:35:19.334
You do not just believe anybody.

1150
00:35:19.793 --> 00:35:24.116
and what they say or somebody else's beliefs because it's not going to work for you.

1151
00:35:24.838 --> 00:35:25.237
Again,

1152
00:35:25.979 --> 00:35:28.319
you are your own person and you need to figure that out.

1153
00:35:28.483 --> 00:35:28.780
And so,

1154
00:35:29.342 --> 00:35:29.483
yeah,

1155
00:35:29.905 --> 00:35:35.545
I love all the things that I've shown her of working through politics and views.

1156
00:35:36.092 --> 00:35:36.483
And also,

1157
00:35:37.530 --> 00:35:40.327
it's not you shouldn't be traumatized by politics.

1158
00:35:40.374 --> 00:35:49.249
I think that's the reason why I talk to my child about politics is if you are consistently stuck thinking or negative due to politics.

1159
00:35:49.721 --> 00:35:51.383
You're letting politics traumatize you,

1160
00:35:51.543 --> 00:35:53.244
and I need you to be stronger than that.

1161
00:35:53.324 --> 00:35:54.707
I need you to work through that,

1162
00:35:54.766 --> 00:35:56.910
and I need you to focus on getting other things done.

1163
00:35:57.328 --> 00:35:58.269
So that is really why

1164
00:35:58.613 --> 00:35:59.730
I, as a parent,

1165
00:36:00.051 --> 00:36:03.957
work through politics and just get it going and get it through there,

1166
00:36:04.355 --> 00:36:09.121
because other people will hurt and harm their lives or families or health,

1167
00:36:09.215 --> 00:36:09.746
their wealth,

1168
00:36:10.262 --> 00:36:13.121
because of their traumatization around politics.

1169
00:36:14.105 --> 00:36:14.449
Well said.

1170
00:36:14.762 --> 00:36:15.105
It's true.

1171
00:36:16.043 --> 00:36:16.293
I mean,

1172
00:36:16.980 --> 00:36:17.933
you know your mom loves you,

1173
00:36:18.308 --> 00:36:18.465
right?

1174
00:36:18.977 --> 00:36:19.437
All that matters.

1175
00:36:19.778 --> 00:36:19.938
Yeah.

1176
00:36:20.199 --> 00:36:20.699
All that matters.

1177
00:36:21.320 --> 00:36:22.400
And that it's cool that if you,

1178
00:36:22.861 --> 00:36:23.082
again,

1179
00:36:23.363 --> 00:36:24.582
I totally respect where you're coming from.

1180
00:36:24.583 --> 00:36:25.324
You don't have to talk about it.

1181
00:36:26.546 --> 00:36:28.085
But you know that you have a safe space.

1182
00:36:28.109 --> 00:36:29.070
You can still talk to your mother.

1183
00:36:29.445 --> 00:36:29.585
Yeah.

1184
00:36:29.828 --> 00:36:30.007
Right?

1185
00:36:30.312 --> 00:36:32.390
And that's all that freaking matters.

1186
00:36:32.648 --> 00:36:32.812
Yeah.

1187
00:36:33.093 --> 00:36:33.210
So,

1188
00:36:33.968 --> 00:36:34.312
Farrah,

1189
00:36:34.492 --> 00:36:35.046
this is for you.

1190
00:36:35.687 --> 00:36:38.874
I wonder why you're so tight-lipped about that politics here.

1191
00:36:39.140 --> 00:36:43.734
It's because people always have something to say about either side that you're on.

1192
00:36:44.609 --> 00:36:48.562
and I just feel like me personally I wouldn't want to put

1193
00:36:49.089 --> 00:37:05.793
anything that I believe in other than like religion obviously out there because people just you know like social media just controls a lot of your social life and I feel like people have very strong beliefs when

1194
00:37:05.808 --> 00:37:17.215
it comes to politics and they're like oh you believe in this flip you we're unfollowing you blah blah blah and it goes the same with both sides I feel like so I just choose not to talk about it at all

1195
00:37:17.929 --> 00:37:18.970
Because then nothing happens.

1196
00:37:20.612 --> 00:37:22.675
I just choose to stand up for what's right.

1197
00:37:22.893 --> 00:37:23.854
And I don't care if I have follows.

1198
00:37:23.855 --> 00:37:24.296
And that's okay.

1199
00:37:24.354 --> 00:37:26.440
And I fully support you for doing that.

1200
00:37:27.261 --> 00:37:28.979
It's just my personal opinion.

1201
00:37:30.159 --> 00:37:31.018
So in real life,

1202
00:37:31.518 --> 00:37:34.378
when we really have to go through things in our family,

1203
00:37:35.471 --> 00:37:36.425
how do you feel about that?

1204
00:37:37.034 --> 00:37:40.050
It's not about likes or upsetment on social.

1205
00:37:41.534 --> 00:37:41.909
What do you mean?

1206
00:37:42.206 --> 00:37:43.346
So like in our family,

1207
00:37:43.518 --> 00:37:43.971
our family.

1208
00:37:44.961 --> 00:37:46.282
is all over the place.

1209
00:37:46.323 --> 00:37:47.964
Like they think all sorts of stuff.

1210
00:37:51.028 --> 00:37:54.192
So do you share your point of view or do you just hear them out?

1211
00:37:54.372 --> 00:37:56.677
I don't think I've ever talked to them about how I feel.

1212
00:37:57.630 --> 00:37:59.434
I know that's why I'm asking Sophia.

1213
00:38:00.770 --> 00:38:02.755
I think that this is interesting about my daughter.

1214
00:38:03.161 --> 00:38:09.489
So because your other kids in our family that are around your age,

1215
00:38:10.161 --> 00:38:11.145
they all are,

1216
00:38:11.833 --> 00:38:12.474
they'll talk,

1217
00:38:13.145 --> 00:38:13.692
they'll state.

1218
00:38:14.181 --> 00:38:18.663
They'll say like they try to just change up the whole dynamic,

1219
00:38:18.828 --> 00:38:19.285
change you,

1220
00:38:19.425 --> 00:38:20.265
change your feelings,

1221
00:38:20.308 --> 00:38:21.828
change how you call them names.

1222
00:38:21.867 --> 00:38:24.351
Like you can't even call them by their own name anymore.

1223
00:38:26.531 --> 00:38:30.117
And I just kind of don't roll with it because I'm like,

1224
00:38:30.554 --> 00:38:31.679
I've known you kids.

1225
00:38:32.273 --> 00:38:33.898
I respect real changes,

1226
00:38:34.054 --> 00:38:36.242
but I also am not like in denial.

1227
00:38:37.445 --> 00:38:40.288
And I think Sophia can be so kind to a fault.

1228
00:38:40.382 --> 00:38:42.648
And this is what I always tell my daughter.

1229
00:38:43.521 --> 00:38:49.047
The one thing that I most regret in life is being too kind to the wrong things,

1230
00:38:49.708 --> 00:38:51.770
the wrong maybe missions,

1231
00:38:51.872 --> 00:38:52.692
purposes.

1232
00:38:54.614 --> 00:38:57.090
So I always say don't be too kind.

1233
00:38:57.153 --> 00:38:58.958
And I know that might be like the bully,

1234
00:38:59.340 --> 00:39:01.059
the bully tagline of everything.

1235
00:39:01.137 --> 00:39:06.043
But looking back at my life at a trauma center and hearing everybody else out,

1236
00:39:06.700 --> 00:39:12.168
what spoke true to hearing everybody's stories was everyone was too kind to the wrong people.

1237
00:39:12.793 --> 00:39:13.674
And being misled.

1238
00:39:14.355 --> 00:39:15.056
And so I just,

1239
00:39:15.134 --> 00:39:18.881
I really have like my foot down internally of my family with that.

1240
00:39:20.400 --> 00:39:20.541
Yeah.

1241
00:39:20.740 --> 00:39:22.302
Sophia really keeps it to herself.

1242
00:39:22.341 --> 00:39:23.006
She's good.

1243
00:39:23.240 --> 00:39:23.365
Yeah.

1244
00:39:23.506 --> 00:39:24.248
Sophia really.

1245
00:39:24.326 --> 00:39:24.662
She's good.

1246
00:39:24.748 --> 00:39:24.904
Honey,

1247
00:39:24.905 --> 00:39:25.365
do me a favor.

1248
00:39:25.466 --> 00:39:26.709
Bring this a little bit closer to you.

1249
00:39:26.849 --> 00:39:27.310
Okay.

1250
00:39:27.311 --> 00:39:27.584
Thank you.

1251
00:39:27.912 --> 00:39:28.224
Farrah,

1252
00:39:28.225 --> 00:39:29.256
this is going along with,

1253
00:39:30.209 --> 00:39:31.677
we're going to talk politics for a second.

1254
00:39:32.224 --> 00:39:32.631
Farrah.

1255
00:39:32.677 --> 00:39:33.099
Why not?

1256
00:39:33.146 --> 00:39:33.490
You were,

1257
00:39:33.646 --> 00:39:34.052
so all right.

1258
00:39:34.177 --> 00:39:34.427
Farrah,

1259
00:39:34.459 --> 00:39:38.256
you're expelled from your master's program after expressing your views about Trump.

1260
00:39:38.381 --> 00:39:39.459
What did that.

1261
00:39:40.095 --> 00:39:45.435
teach you about standing by your beliefs and handling unfair treatment?

1262
00:39:46.513 --> 00:39:46.733
Yeah.

1263
00:39:47.074 --> 00:39:48.895
So I think for one,

1264
00:39:49.157 --> 00:39:52.661
politics do not need to be brought into school dynamics.

1265
00:39:53.578 --> 00:39:56.364
But when you have conduct departments,

1266
00:39:56.379 --> 00:39:58.582
you have teachers basically stalking you.

1267
00:39:58.746 --> 00:40:07.176
And I think like that's that is a very harmful thing of being a public figure and trying to do anything or have any success.

1268
00:40:07.411 --> 00:40:07.707
I mean,

1269
00:40:07.911 --> 00:40:09.020
that is why I'm successful,

1270
00:40:09.036 --> 00:40:09.379
honestly,

1271
00:40:09.442 --> 00:40:14.082
is because I've had to deal with people finding any little thing,

1272
00:40:14.223 --> 00:40:15.317
politics included.

1273
00:40:16.149 --> 00:40:16.990
to harm you with it.

1274
00:40:17.150 --> 00:40:23.218
So I think like seeing irrational radical left taking over in a hostile manner,

1275
00:40:23.796 --> 00:40:25.101
our school systems,

1276
00:40:25.155 --> 00:40:26.921
our graduate school systems.

1277
00:40:27.358 --> 00:40:27.624
And then,

1278
00:40:27.702 --> 00:40:27.882
yeah,

1279
00:40:28.280 --> 00:40:28.522
you know,

1280
00:40:28.561 --> 00:40:31.366
Charlie Kirk died while I'm getting a master's program.

1281
00:40:31.522 --> 00:40:31.921
Of course,

1282
00:40:31.952 --> 00:40:33.061
I'm going to talk about that.

1283
00:40:33.999 --> 00:40:34.249
You know,

1284
00:40:34.327 --> 00:40:36.593
someone almost got shot in the head and couldn't be a president.

1285
00:40:36.890 --> 00:40:37.015
So,

1286
00:40:37.016 --> 00:40:37.452
of course,

1287
00:40:37.515 --> 00:40:38.499
I talked about that.

1288
00:40:39.311 --> 00:40:43.280
There has just been very big things that are changing everybody's lives.

1289
00:40:43.865 --> 00:40:44.566
And again,

1290
00:40:44.806 --> 00:40:45.847
I like humans.

1291
00:40:46.087 --> 00:40:49.189
And so I will stand up for humanity and I will talk about it.

1292
00:40:50.470 --> 00:40:52.154
And that is a sad reason why

1293
00:40:53.091 --> 00:40:54.115
I got expelled,

1294
00:40:54.154 --> 00:40:54.537
I guess,

1295
00:40:54.599 --> 00:41:00.607
for my my beliefs and them stalking my social media and anything that I say outside of school.

1296
00:41:00.904 --> 00:41:01.560
What school was it?

1297
00:41:02.591 --> 00:41:03.951
Western Governors University,

1298
00:41:04.029 --> 00:41:07.966
which is actually an online self-paced school.

1299
00:41:08.232 --> 00:41:11.638
How you could expel someone for their own self-paced program.

1300
00:41:12.841 --> 00:41:14.142
is against our civil rights,

1301
00:41:14.442 --> 00:41:15.323
is against the law,

1302
00:41:16.304 --> 00:41:19.288
and the majority of them don't show up to work or school,

1303
00:41:19.429 --> 00:41:23.147
but they do show up to harm and hurt your own dreams,

1304
00:41:23.194 --> 00:41:24.014
your own goals,

1305
00:41:24.335 --> 00:41:25.335
and get in the way of that,

1306
00:41:25.694 --> 00:41:29.819
which in turn fails the mission of all universities,

1307
00:41:29.897 --> 00:41:31.866
which is to increase their graduation rates.

1308
00:41:33.022 --> 00:41:33.147
So

1309
00:41:34.397 --> 00:41:35.100
I've spoken,

1310
00:41:35.757 --> 00:41:40.225
and I don't care to waste my time on people who have no degrees and licenses.

1311
00:41:41.225 --> 00:41:41.663
just put

1312
00:41:42.077 --> 00:41:43.519
letters behind their names.

1313
00:41:43.639 --> 00:41:44.779
You can have PhDs,

1314
00:41:44.801 --> 00:41:45.900
you can have doctorates.

1315
00:41:46.301 --> 00:41:52.488
But if you're dumber than a box of rocks and you're expelling people for doing nothing,

1316
00:41:54.426 --> 00:41:54.551
then

1317
00:41:54.910 --> 00:41:56.551
I don't even know why we have schools anymore.

1318
00:41:56.629 --> 00:42:01.551
So do I believe my daughter should get a degree and be successful in education?

1319
00:42:01.598 --> 00:42:01.941
Yes.

1320
00:42:02.613 --> 00:42:04.082
Do I believe there's a huge,

1321
00:42:04.223 --> 00:42:10.270
massive school reform that's undergoing very much louder than probably a hundred years before us?

1322
00:42:10.493 --> 00:42:10.633
yeah,

1323
00:42:10.713 --> 00:42:12.315
I think that there's something major,

1324
00:42:12.616 --> 00:42:18.241
majorly going to have to change in schools from speaking to attorneys and my new legal team who's going to win.

1325
00:42:19.424 --> 00:42:19.541
So,

1326
00:42:19.620 --> 00:42:19.760
yeah,

1327
00:42:19.784 --> 00:42:20.385
I can't wait.

1328
00:42:20.666 --> 00:42:24.104
And I can't wait to also get my law degree because I'm on to my doctorate,

1329
00:42:24.924 --> 00:42:25.346
my JD.

1330
00:42:25.987 --> 00:42:30.659
And I can't wait to do pro bono work against these universities who are expelling amazing students.

1331
00:42:31.721 --> 00:42:31.830
So,

1332
00:42:31.940 --> 00:42:32.096
yeah,

1333
00:42:32.409 --> 00:42:32.659
I mean,

1334
00:42:32.660 --> 00:42:34.377
they just all light the fire right under me,

1335
00:42:34.424 --> 00:42:34.674
you know,

1336
00:42:34.752 --> 00:42:37.799
wrongfully fire me from a show that I create.

1337
00:42:39.018 --> 00:42:39.346
Just.

1338
00:42:39.817 --> 00:42:42.600
cancel me out of my own degree program that I pay for.

1339
00:42:43.862 --> 00:42:48.022
There's just a lot of great learning lessons that never take me out.

1340
00:42:48.326 --> 00:42:48.444
So

1341
00:42:50.326 --> 00:42:50.905
I love your brain.

1342
00:42:51.272 --> 00:42:51.389
Yeah.

1343
00:42:51.631 --> 00:42:52.592
I love her brain so much.

1344
00:42:52.631 --> 00:42:54.834
Keep fueling the fire.

1345
00:42:54.936 --> 00:42:56.530
Keep feeding me negativity.

1346
00:42:57.311 --> 00:42:59.280
I eat it and I just spit out greatness.

1347
00:42:59.655 --> 00:43:00.014
I love,

1348
00:43:00.076 --> 00:43:00.295
love,

1349
00:43:00.373 --> 00:43:00.623
love,

1350
00:43:00.655 --> 00:43:00.873
love,

1351
00:43:00.936 --> 00:43:02.155
love your mother's brain.

1352
00:43:02.342 --> 00:43:02.701
It's just,

1353
00:43:02.795 --> 00:43:03.764
it's so freaking good.

1354
00:43:04.561 --> 00:43:04.842
All right,

1355
00:43:05.061 --> 00:43:05.436
Sophia.

1356
00:43:05.873 --> 00:43:07.815
You don't do many interviews or podcasts.

1357
00:43:08.036 --> 00:43:09.657
What made you say yes to this one?

1358
00:43:13.362 --> 00:43:18.522
And what's something people consistently get wrong about you that you want to set straight?

1359
00:43:20.405 --> 00:43:20.608
Well,

1360
00:43:20.866 --> 00:43:26.796
the reason why I came on this podcast is probably because I called you before I came here,

1361
00:43:27.030 --> 00:43:27.514
honestly.

1362
00:43:28.639 --> 00:43:30.592
I just feel a lot more comfortable coming on here.

1363
00:43:31.342 --> 00:43:31.624
Thank you,

1364
00:43:31.625 --> 00:43:31.952
by the way.

1365
00:43:32.139 --> 00:43:32.577
It means a lot.

1366
00:43:32.655 --> 00:43:32.780
Yeah.

1367
00:43:32.905 --> 00:43:33.046
Like,

1368
00:43:33.436 --> 00:43:34.046
as a dad?

1369
00:43:34.047 --> 00:43:34.499
Yeah.

1370
00:43:34.537 --> 00:43:35.338
And a podcaster.

1371
00:43:35.398 --> 00:43:35.738
Thank you.

1372
00:43:36.099 --> 00:43:36.259
Yeah.

1373
00:43:36.599 --> 00:43:36.879
I mean,

1374
00:43:36.880 --> 00:43:39.783
I feel like I haven't really done that before I came on a podcast.

1375
00:43:40.283 --> 00:43:40.404
So,

1376
00:43:40.424 --> 00:43:40.642
I mean,

1377
00:43:40.643 --> 00:43:42.525
I just feel a lot more comfortable coming on here.

1378
00:43:43.303 --> 00:43:46.224
I also have a tad bit of social anxiety,

1379
00:43:46.310 --> 00:43:48.146
so that's why I don't really do that much.

1380
00:43:49.935 --> 00:43:50.959
But I'm happy I came here.

1381
00:43:52.537 --> 00:43:52.693
Sorry,

1382
00:43:52.709 --> 00:43:53.693
what was the second question?

1383
00:43:54.459 --> 00:43:54.662
Well,

1384
00:43:54.912 --> 00:43:56.021
the second question was,

1385
00:43:57.146 --> 00:44:02.099
what's something people consistently get wrong about you and you want to set that straight?

1386
00:44:08.280 --> 00:44:08.560
Hmm.

1387
00:44:08.601 --> 00:44:09.040
I mean,

1388
00:44:09.802 --> 00:44:13.587
I don't really think that there's a lot of things that people get wrong about me.

1389
00:44:14.743 --> 00:44:17.071
People just have a lot of opinions about me,

1390
00:44:17.126 --> 00:44:17.790
I would say.

1391
00:44:18.892 --> 00:44:21.087
But no one has really gotten anything wrong about me,

1392
00:44:21.759 --> 00:44:22.134
honestly.

1393
00:44:23.978 --> 00:44:25.571
I think recently there was a video.

1394
00:44:27.493 --> 00:44:29.946
I don't keep track of receipts or anything,

1395
00:44:30.775 --> 00:44:34.368
but there was a video recently and you like.

1396
00:44:34.541 --> 00:44:41.129
literally blocked the person uh because you were like she's insinuating that we have issues

1397
00:44:41.687 --> 00:44:43.429
with your tattoos and you're like,

1398
00:44:43.449 --> 00:44:44.650
that's just completely wrong.

1399
00:44:44.691 --> 00:44:44.851
Like,

1400
00:44:44.871 --> 00:44:46.210
I don't look at you that way.

1401
00:44:46.292 --> 00:44:47.414
You don't look at me that way.

1402
00:44:47.554 --> 00:44:47.671
Well,

1403
00:44:47.672 --> 00:44:47.874
I mean,

1404
00:44:47.894 --> 00:44:49.015
that's something about you,

1405
00:44:49.675 --> 00:44:51.476
of you not supporting my tattoos.

1406
00:44:52.437 --> 00:44:52.554
No,

1407
00:44:52.601 --> 00:44:53.460
I think she said like,

1408
00:44:53.578 --> 00:44:53.703
oh,

1409
00:44:53.718 --> 00:44:56.164
Sophia is doing this because she knows that she upsets her mom.

1410
00:44:56.781 --> 00:44:56.945
Oh,

1411
00:44:57.218 --> 00:44:57.343
yeah.

1412
00:44:57.344 --> 00:44:57.546
You know,

1413
00:44:57.585 --> 00:45:00.843
like there was this whole spiel and you just blocked her in the middle of it.

1414
00:45:00.999 --> 00:45:01.140
Yeah.

1415
00:45:01.734 --> 00:45:02.062
I mean,

1416
00:45:02.140 --> 00:45:08.687
people do say that I do things to like rebel against my mom or like just do things out of rebellion.

1417
00:45:08.781 --> 00:45:10.031
I don't really do that.

1418
00:45:10.731 --> 00:45:12.293
I do things that

1419
00:45:13.193 --> 00:45:16.338
I'm happy doing and that my mom's okay with.

1420
00:45:17.197 --> 00:45:21.283
And it's just a very healthy relationship between me and my mom.

1421
00:45:21.361 --> 00:45:27.205
And she's okay with the things that I've done in the past years with body modifications and all of that.

1422
00:45:27.267 --> 00:45:28.345
And I'm very open with her.

1423
00:45:29.267 --> 00:45:30.689
And yeah,

1424
00:45:30.690 --> 00:45:32.345
we just have a very healthy relationship.

1425
00:45:32.392 --> 00:45:36.533
And I feel like people are either jealous and take things out of context.

1426
00:45:37.236 --> 00:45:40.314
And they're jealous of our relationship and how healthy it is.

1427
00:45:41.143 --> 00:45:42.664
And they don't have that themselves.

1428
00:45:43.426 --> 00:45:46.828
So they try to make things seem like something that it's not.

1429
00:45:47.391 --> 00:45:47.770
Well said.

1430
00:45:48.629 --> 00:45:48.750
Yeah.

1431
00:45:48.891 --> 00:45:49.215
I agree.

1432
00:45:50.012 --> 00:45:50.613
Not that it matters,

1433
00:45:50.652 --> 00:45:51.410
but I agree.

1434
00:45:53.496 --> 00:45:53.652
Yeah.

1435
00:45:54.199 --> 00:45:54.598
I don't know.

1436
00:45:54.855 --> 00:45:56.715
But like I say to Sophia when I see this,

1437
00:45:56.738 --> 00:45:57.199
I'm like,

1438
00:45:59.324 --> 00:46:00.043
I just say like,

1439
00:46:00.059 --> 00:46:00.277
Sophia,

1440
00:46:00.340 --> 00:46:02.199
I totally understand where they're coming from.

1441
00:46:02.559 --> 00:46:02.902
I'm like,

1442
00:46:03.105 --> 00:46:03.246
look,

1443
00:46:03.277 --> 00:46:10.465
I used to wish like I had a relationship that you and I have with my mother and I would often be over at other.

1444
00:46:10.935 --> 00:46:11.556
girlfriends'

1445
00:46:11.937 --> 00:46:14.679
houses and they would have great relationships with their moms.

1446
00:46:15.339 --> 00:46:15.659
And

1447
00:46:16.280 --> 00:46:16.940
I, you know,

1448
00:46:16.980 --> 00:46:17.503
I was just like,

1449
00:46:17.562 --> 00:46:17.683
oh,

1450
00:46:17.722 --> 00:46:18.663
thanks for having me over.

1451
00:46:19.022 --> 00:46:20.343
Thanks for letting me be a part.

1452
00:46:20.421 --> 00:46:20.546
So,

1453
00:46:22.022 --> 00:46:22.343
I mean,

1454
00:46:22.647 --> 00:46:23.085
it's just,

1455
00:46:23.147 --> 00:46:32.851
I think some people just don't maybe even have friends to see it with where they live and everybody has just really screwed up relationships and mommy issues with their moms.

1456
00:46:33.897 --> 00:46:34.179
But I,

1457
00:46:34.679 --> 00:46:36.460
I think that is even why though,

1458
00:46:36.679 --> 00:46:39.257
I am so grateful for my daughter's

1459
00:46:39.595 --> 00:46:42.057
like our work and our relationship and everything like that.

1460
00:46:42.438 --> 00:46:44.721
And I love to show that because

1461
00:46:45.061 --> 00:46:50.944
I almost feel like sometimes it's like a norm to just talk negatively about your kids,

1462
00:46:51.584 --> 00:46:53.811
not really have your kids close to you.

1463
00:46:53.850 --> 00:46:54.928
Um,

1464
00:46:55.053 --> 00:46:56.725
just kind of like sideline them.

1465
00:46:57.506 --> 00:46:58.428
And I think like,

1466
00:46:58.459 --> 00:47:02.850
that's one of the things I probably say to my daughter the most is I can't stand going to the salon.

1467
00:47:03.459 --> 00:47:04.881
I can't stand mom groups,

1468
00:47:05.116 --> 00:47:08.537
I can't stand a lot of places because if I start hearing it.

1469
00:47:09.399 --> 00:47:12.080
And with my ADHD and my mouth,

1470
00:47:13.260 --> 00:47:13.721
I'm like,

1471
00:47:14.279 --> 00:47:14.440
girl,

1472
00:47:14.459 --> 00:47:16.619
you want to just like take that somewhere else?

1473
00:47:16.620 --> 00:47:18.463
Because I don't want to hear negative things about your kid.

1474
00:47:19.580 --> 00:47:23.260
So I do kind of like because I just heard that so habitually growing up.

1475
00:47:23.760 --> 00:47:24.463
And I think if,

1476
00:47:24.822 --> 00:47:25.065
you know,

1477
00:47:25.260 --> 00:47:26.565
sometimes if he doesn't understand,

1478
00:47:26.580 --> 00:47:29.299
like when like if I've heard enough somewhere,

1479
00:47:29.502 --> 00:47:37.705
like I got to leave because that's the last thing I want to do is traumatize another kid after what I went through for being talked negatively about so much.

1480
00:47:38.387 --> 00:47:38.607
Um,

1481
00:47:38.747 --> 00:47:39.488
so I just really,

1482
00:47:39.767 --> 00:47:41.348
I kind of like tell Sophia about that.

1483
00:47:41.387 --> 00:47:42.489
I don't think she was like under,

1484
00:47:42.727 --> 00:47:43.028
like,

1485
00:47:43.407 --> 00:47:48.789
it's so great that your kids so not traumatized or damaged that they can't even tell,

1486
00:47:49.188 --> 00:47:49.446
um,

1487
00:47:50.610 --> 00:47:52.032
how other people get traumatized.

1488
00:47:52.047 --> 00:47:55.758
But sometimes I just have to like remind self about like little things like that.

1489
00:47:56.946 --> 00:47:57.368
Cause it's,

1490
00:47:57.430 --> 00:47:57.618
yeah,

1491
00:47:59.508 --> 00:47:59.664
it's,

1492
00:47:59.774 --> 00:48:00.493
it's just crazy.

1493
00:48:01.493 --> 00:48:03.118
It's so crazy what I feel.

1494
00:48:03.211 --> 00:48:05.758
I'm just so grateful for Sophia being as happy as she is,

1495
00:48:06.118 --> 00:48:07.071
like from seeing her other

1496
00:48:07.375 --> 00:48:11.921
friends just being abused from like their parents and everything else.

1497
00:48:11.922 --> 00:48:19.444
It's just like crazy being a single mom with a daughter and getting through the suburbs,

1498
00:48:19.726 --> 00:48:20.351
getting out of,

1499
00:48:20.827 --> 00:48:21.147
I guess,

1500
00:48:21.210 --> 00:48:21.405
like

1501
00:48:22.249 --> 00:48:26.054
Midwest stuff that wasn't healthy and then big city,

1502
00:48:26.179 --> 00:48:28.804
crazy LA and traveling like New York,

1503
00:48:28.929 --> 00:48:32.944
everywhere around the globe and having such a peaceful,

1504
00:48:33.522 --> 00:48:34.476
great relationship.

1505
00:48:34.507 --> 00:48:35.382
It's just wild.

1506
00:48:36.163 --> 00:48:36.288
So.

1507
00:48:36.943 --> 00:48:42.469
When you talk about seeing her friends being abused or in abusive relationships with parents,

1508
00:48:43.168 --> 00:48:43.789
when I was a kid,

1509
00:48:44.309 --> 00:48:44.653
my mom,

1510
00:48:44.911 --> 00:48:46.090
my parents split up when I was younger.

1511
00:48:46.114 --> 00:48:47.153
I have a great relationship with my dad.

1512
00:48:47.154 --> 00:48:48.075
My mom has passed away now,

1513
00:48:48.076 --> 00:48:49.254
but she raised me for the most part.

1514
00:48:49.778 --> 00:48:51.161
I remember going home.

1515
00:48:51.215 --> 00:48:51.981
This is in high school.

1516
00:48:52.418 --> 00:48:53.426
I was a junior in high school,

1517
00:48:53.504 --> 00:48:54.395
and a friend of mine,

1518
00:48:54.786 --> 00:48:56.489
he was mean to his mom all the time.

1519
00:48:56.926 --> 00:48:58.770
I remember going back to my mom and saying,

1520
00:48:59.207 --> 00:48:59.442
hey,

1521
00:49:00.082 --> 00:49:00.989
I won't say his name,

1522
00:49:00.990 --> 00:49:03.707
but John Doe is really mean to his mom.

1523
00:49:04.004 --> 00:49:04.973
Why would he do that?

1524
00:49:05.567 --> 00:49:10.410
Like I couldn't understand that because I had such a great relationship with my mother when I was younger.

1525
00:49:11.214 --> 00:49:13.015
Have you ever had those kind of talks with your mom?

1526
00:49:13.195 --> 00:49:14.714
And I don't want to throw any of your friends under the bus,

1527
00:49:15.660 --> 00:49:16.574
and no one's perfect,

1528
00:49:16.636 --> 00:49:25.574
but have you ever seen like something not cool in the interaction with your friends and their parents and then go back and talk to your mom about it?

1529
00:49:27.871 --> 00:49:28.168
Yes.

1530
00:49:28.652 --> 00:49:28.808
Yes,

1531
00:49:28.933 --> 00:49:30.168
I have.

1532
00:49:30.169 --> 00:49:30.371
I mean,

1533
00:49:30.386 --> 00:49:32.886
I don't really want to have a story time about it,

1534
00:49:32.949 --> 00:49:33.136
but.

1535
00:49:33.687 --> 00:49:35.212
I have had those moments,

1536
00:49:35.653 --> 00:49:41.775
and it usually ends up with me cutting those types of people off because it's very obvious.

1537
00:49:42.750 --> 00:49:46.310
then that they are mentally ill and I shouldn't be around them.

1538
00:49:46.550 --> 00:49:46.890
First of all,

1539
00:49:46.891 --> 00:49:47.929
I love you call it story time.

1540
00:49:48.031 --> 00:49:48.550
That's hilarious.

1541
00:49:49.050 --> 00:49:49.671
And second,

1542
00:49:50.808 --> 00:49:52.652
what a great way to handle that,

1543
00:49:53.753 --> 00:49:54.050
mom.

1544
00:49:54.269 --> 00:49:54.472
Like,

1545
00:49:54.753 --> 00:49:55.675
holy moly.

1546
00:49:56.871 --> 00:49:57.035
Like,

1547
00:49:57.050 --> 00:49:57.972
that's phenomenal.

1548
00:49:58.933 --> 00:49:59.839
Because if you stay,

1549
00:50:00.199 --> 00:50:00.933
this is my role,

1550
00:50:01.058 --> 00:50:02.636
if you stay friends with someone,

1551
00:50:04.136 --> 00:50:04.839
because I will,

1552
00:50:05.152 --> 00:50:05.574
I have,

1553
00:50:06.121 --> 00:50:07.714
I will call the parents and I will just,

1554
00:50:09.121 --> 00:50:10.355
I will cut right through it.

1555
00:50:11.014 --> 00:50:12.535
Because I'm not going to have anyone,

1556
00:50:13.155 --> 00:50:17.455
I will not have anyone affect my child in a negative way.

1557
00:50:18.397 --> 00:50:23.498
And if you continue being friends with someone who you keep hearing abuse,

1558
00:50:23.694 --> 00:50:24.241
abuse,

1559
00:50:24.420 --> 00:50:24.858
abuse,

1560
00:50:24.959 --> 00:50:25.280
abuse,

1561
00:50:25.537 --> 00:50:29.952
we are now normalizing that it's okay for them to do that to their child.

1562
00:50:30.545 --> 00:50:30.920
Get out.

1563
00:50:31.436 --> 00:50:32.217
And so when you,

1564
00:50:32.420 --> 00:50:33.577
and when you cut it off,

1565
00:50:34.077 --> 00:50:38.936
it speaks so loudly to those parents that you couldn't reach to.

1566
00:50:39.542 --> 00:50:42.185
that they wanted to lie and manipulate you about what they're doing.

1567
00:50:42.665 --> 00:50:42.786
So,

1568
00:50:43.025 --> 00:50:43.185
yeah,

1569
00:50:43.267 --> 00:50:43.525
I mean,

1570
00:50:43.567 --> 00:50:45.150
so much so some people had to move.

1571
00:50:46.048 --> 00:50:46.169
So,

1572
00:50:46.170 --> 00:50:47.009
yeah,

1573
00:50:47.130 --> 00:50:47.493
I just,

1574
00:50:47.532 --> 00:50:48.032
I don't play.

1575
00:50:49.314 --> 00:50:50.329
I don't play with my kid.

1576
00:50:50.454 --> 00:50:51.837
I don't think either of you play.

1577
00:50:52.196 --> 00:50:52.314
No.

1578
00:50:52.571 --> 00:50:54.493
I think she's just more quiet about it.

1579
00:50:54.579 --> 00:50:55.665
Yeah.

1580
00:50:55.666 --> 00:50:55.931
Right?

1581
00:50:56.118 --> 00:50:57.306
Yeah.

1582
00:50:57.307 --> 00:50:57.478
You know,

1583
00:50:57.479 --> 00:51:00.415
but I think that's so cool that you do that.

1584
00:51:00.509 --> 00:51:01.806
Thank you.

1585
00:51:01.807 --> 00:51:02.931
You're welcome.

1586
00:51:02.932 --> 00:51:04.306
I just think that that's really,

1587
00:51:04.821 --> 00:51:05.103
like,

1588
00:51:06.087 --> 00:51:07.150
you are an old soul,

1589
00:51:07.853 --> 00:51:08.275
my dear.

1590
00:51:08.906 --> 00:51:09.547
At 16,

1591
00:51:09.587 --> 00:51:12.189
you are wiser than your tender young years.

1592
00:51:12.190 --> 00:51:13.189
I think that's fantastic.

1593
00:51:13.712 --> 00:51:13.872
Yeah.

1594
00:51:13.951 --> 00:51:14.271
You know,

1595
00:51:14.712 --> 00:51:18.298
because the one thing they're not making any more of is time.

1596
00:51:19.314 --> 00:51:22.040
So every second you are wasting in a,

1597
00:51:22.556 --> 00:51:30.587
even to observe or be exposed to a relationship that one of your friends has with their parents or one of your friends has with one of your friends.

1598
00:51:30.603 --> 00:51:30.822
You're like,

1599
00:51:30.823 --> 00:51:31.150
you know what?

1600
00:51:31.415 --> 00:51:31.775
Deuces.

1601
00:51:31.806 --> 00:51:32.181
I'm out.

1602
00:51:32.728 --> 00:51:33.306
I'm out of here.

1603
00:51:33.337 --> 00:51:34.509
You can't get that time back.

1604
00:51:34.697 --> 00:51:35.775
You can't get that time back.

1605
00:51:36.197 --> 00:51:37.572
From trying to save someone else.

1606
00:51:37.898 --> 00:51:38.399
And I just,

1607
00:51:38.519 --> 00:51:38.839
I know,

1608
00:51:38.980 --> 00:51:41.903
so I don't know if that just chimed in a memory,

1609
00:51:42.083 --> 00:51:42.321
but

1610
00:51:43.505 --> 00:51:50.650
I do say this very nicely about people who we date because I feel like,

1611
00:51:50.651 --> 00:51:50.993
you know,

1612
00:51:51.595 --> 00:51:53.032
I know we're talking about friends,

1613
00:51:53.673 --> 00:51:58.173
but choosing someone who you date is a very big thing,

1614
00:51:58.204 --> 00:51:58.861
a big deal.

1615
00:51:59.876 --> 00:52:02.798
It's success or fail kind of sometimes.

1616
00:52:03.470 --> 00:52:04.064
And yeah,

1617
00:52:04.220 --> 00:52:05.392
wasting your time.

1618
00:52:06.698 --> 00:52:13.805
Helping and helping and helping a tornado that you can't stop is not going to change anything.

1619
00:52:14.004 --> 00:52:18.106
It just will get you in the tornado and upset your spirit.

1620
00:52:18.614 --> 00:52:21.192
So I've just kind of had to say that about dating.

1621
00:52:22.411 --> 00:52:23.114
Have you started dating?

1622
00:52:23.895 --> 00:52:24.301
Yes,

1623
00:52:24.442 --> 00:52:25.739
for many years.

1624
00:52:26.254 --> 00:52:28.254
She almost dated a girl today at the airport.

1625
00:52:28.442 --> 00:52:28.567
No,

1626
00:52:28.754 --> 00:52:29.364
I didn't.

1627
00:52:29.614 --> 00:52:30.926
I got asked out.

1628
00:52:31.379 --> 00:52:33.161
My phone number was asked for,

1629
00:52:34.301 --> 00:52:35.692
and I declined.

1630
00:52:36.150 --> 00:52:36.671
Thank God.

1631
00:52:36.891 --> 00:52:37.431
What's your type?

1632
00:52:42.398 --> 00:52:42.777
Loyal,

1633
00:52:43.918 --> 00:52:45.117
a good personality,

1634
00:52:45.883 --> 00:52:46.164
funny,

1635
00:52:47.859 --> 00:52:48.398
kind,

1636
00:52:49.226 --> 00:52:53.351
respects my career and my choices,

1637
00:52:53.711 --> 00:52:59.539
and respects how I look and what I do with my appearance,

1638
00:53:00.961 --> 00:53:04.273
and someone who respects my mom.

1639
00:53:06.598 --> 00:53:07.940
And my life in general,

1640
00:53:08.219 --> 00:53:08.719
I feel like.

1641
00:53:09.200 --> 00:53:09.442
I mean,

1642
00:53:09.461 --> 00:53:12.043
I don't really care about looks that much.

1643
00:53:12.965 --> 00:53:17.586
It just really depends what's inside,

1644
00:53:18.126 --> 00:53:18.407
truly,

1645
00:53:18.829 --> 00:53:19.430
I feel like.

1646
00:53:21.813 --> 00:53:22.211
But yeah,

1647
00:53:22.829 --> 00:53:22.969
yeah.

1648
00:53:23.438 --> 00:53:23.751
I mean,

1649
00:53:23.829 --> 00:53:26.313
my dating life kind of started off a little rocky.

1650
00:53:27.344 --> 00:53:31.297
I sent my first cease and desist at 13 years old to a guy.

1651
00:53:32.110 --> 00:53:35.126
So that was neat.

1652
00:53:36.690 --> 00:53:36.811
Um,

1653
00:53:36.812 --> 00:53:37.150
but yeah,

1654
00:53:38.391 --> 00:53:42.371
you have to learn to keep your value through dating and through learning how to date.

1655
00:53:42.871 --> 00:53:43.113
Yeah.

1656
00:53:43.191 --> 00:53:46.734
And I think you set up a very good example of that last year.

1657
00:53:47.773 --> 00:53:47.953
Yeah.

1658
00:53:49.695 --> 00:53:50.914
With my own dating failure.

1659
00:53:51.297 --> 00:53:51.516
Yes.

1660
00:53:51.859 --> 00:53:52.688
Oh yeah.

1661
00:53:52.719 --> 00:53:53.000
I mean,

1662
00:53:54.219 --> 00:53:55.172
I'm dating still.

1663
00:53:55.375 --> 00:53:55.500
So,

1664
00:53:55.875 --> 00:53:56.141
you know,

1665
00:53:56.234 --> 00:53:56.359
my,

1666
00:53:56.656 --> 00:53:58.328
my dating and learning lessons,

1667
00:53:58.953 --> 00:53:59.797
same way with trauma,

1668
00:54:00.172 --> 00:54:00.422
right?

1669
00:54:00.578 --> 00:54:01.281
Identity work.

1670
00:54:01.656 --> 00:54:04.313
If I'm learning anything of how to prevent that myself.

1671
00:54:05.282 --> 00:54:09.488
how to heal and be better myself and dating myself.

1672
00:54:10.488 --> 00:54:19.855
I definitely go on about conversations about things that I learn and that I want her to just be aware of in any sort of a way,

1673
00:54:21.722 --> 00:54:22.144
dating.

1674
00:54:22.863 --> 00:54:24.066
How does it feel to have that?

1675
00:54:25.128 --> 00:54:30.394
It feels really good to have an example to learn from,

1676
00:54:31.347 --> 00:54:31.847
I would say,

1677
00:54:31.894 --> 00:54:33.175
and also just...

1678
00:54:34.862 --> 00:54:41.939
to learn positive things for when you're dating from her also.

1679
00:54:43.050 --> 00:54:45.653
Because she has had a lot of bad dating experiences.

1680
00:54:46.675 --> 00:54:47.034
Have you?

1681
00:54:47.655 --> 00:54:47.936
I'm sorry.

1682
00:54:47.937 --> 00:54:48.675
I'm sorry.

1683
00:54:48.897 --> 00:54:50.757
I've had so many bad dating experiences.

1684
00:54:50.758 --> 00:54:54.905
So I can really make sure if you don't have money,

1685
00:54:55.343 --> 00:54:56.460
if you don't drive,

1686
00:54:56.522 --> 00:54:57.546
if you don't have a job,

1687
00:54:57.827 --> 00:55:01.483
best believe this mom's not going to be paying for you to date my daughter.

1688
00:55:02.046 --> 00:55:07.968
I don't fund family relationships and I don't fund young boys who are still lost relationships.

1689
00:55:08.874 --> 00:55:09.655
Thank you very kindly.

1690
00:55:10.577 --> 00:55:12.139
I'll get off my stance.

1691
00:55:12.202 --> 00:55:12.561
She won't.

1692
00:55:12.886 --> 00:55:13.726
We've got to dance forever.

1693
00:55:13.887 --> 00:55:14.387
You know this,

1694
00:55:14.606 --> 00:55:14.827
right?

1695
00:55:14.946 --> 00:55:15.747
It's not going to stop.

1696
00:55:15.786 --> 00:55:16.507
Yeah.

1697
00:55:16.508 --> 00:55:16.868
It's okay.

1698
00:55:16.966 --> 00:55:17.669
We'll talk after.

1699
00:55:18.009 --> 00:55:18.407
It's okay.

1700
00:55:18.587 --> 00:55:18.946
I've got you,

1701
00:55:18.966 --> 00:55:19.227
kiddo.

1702
00:55:19.349 --> 00:55:19.809
It's okay.

1703
00:55:21.106 --> 00:55:21.669
But it's,

1704
00:55:22.411 --> 00:55:22.528
we,

1705
00:55:23.169 --> 00:55:25.669
growth comes from learning from our mistakes,

1706
00:55:26.372 --> 00:55:26.606
right?

1707
00:55:26.692 --> 00:55:27.411
Yeah.

1708
00:55:27.412 --> 00:55:29.364
I love that you,

1709
00:55:29.552 --> 00:55:33.427
when I asked what's your type in terms of a girl that you want to date,

1710
00:55:33.958 --> 00:55:35.114
you said some wonderful things.

1711
00:55:35.286 --> 00:55:36.599
Did you say girl she wants to date?

1712
00:55:36.600 --> 00:55:37.145
You mean man?

1713
00:55:37.505 --> 00:55:37.708
Boy?

1714
00:55:38.567 --> 00:55:38.817
Girl?

1715
00:55:38.927 --> 00:55:39.145
Boy?

1716
00:55:39.146 --> 00:55:39.677
I don't know.

1717
00:55:40.677 --> 00:55:41.395
Transgender?

1718
00:55:41.834 --> 00:55:42.615
I don't know.

1719
00:55:43.015 --> 00:55:43.336
These days,

1720
00:55:43.337 --> 00:55:43.877
I have no idea.

1721
00:55:43.976 --> 00:55:44.258
Sorry.

1722
00:55:44.597 --> 00:55:46.558
Sophia has had a transgender ask her out.

1723
00:55:46.578 --> 00:55:47.078
It's great.

1724
00:55:47.097 --> 00:55:48.961
Well,

1725
00:55:48.962 --> 00:55:50.387
you know I am attractive,

1726
00:55:50.824 --> 00:55:51.183
I guess.

1727
00:55:51.285 --> 00:55:51.402
No,

1728
00:55:51.824 --> 00:55:53.183
and people will come up to you.

1729
00:55:53.347 --> 00:55:53.707
Sophia.

1730
00:55:53.863 --> 00:55:55.051
Any type of person.

1731
00:55:55.105 --> 00:55:55.910
Any type of thing,

1732
00:55:55.965 --> 00:55:57.371
person or thing will come up to you.

1733
00:55:57.730 --> 00:55:57.855
But

1734
00:55:58.637 --> 00:55:59.965
I do share that with you.

1735
00:56:00.246 --> 00:56:00.449
Like,

1736
00:56:00.512 --> 00:56:00.980
goodness,

1737
00:56:01.027 --> 00:56:02.699
I've been on club tours,

1738
00:56:03.293 --> 00:56:03.574
you know,

1739
00:56:04.277 --> 00:56:05.402
all sorts of things.

1740
00:56:06.605 --> 00:56:06.715
So

1741
00:56:07.340 --> 00:56:08.840
I totally empathize.

1742
00:56:10.887 --> 00:56:11.007
So,

1743
00:56:11.067 --> 00:56:11.507
all right.

1744
00:56:11.508 --> 00:56:12.369
What are you about to say?

1745
00:56:12.468 --> 00:56:14.250
What are you empathetic?

1746
00:56:14.269 --> 00:56:14.711
Empathetic?

1747
00:56:14.750 --> 00:56:16.433
Someone transgender has asked you out before?

1748
00:56:17.093 --> 00:56:17.832
All sorts of things.

1749
00:56:17.894 --> 00:56:19.152
You've never told me that before.

1750
00:56:21.238 --> 00:56:21.355
Well,

1751
00:56:21.356 --> 00:56:23.738
I was actually in the moment with you when this happened,

1752
00:56:23.902 --> 00:56:26.925
but when you had that whole camp experience.

1753
00:56:27.316 --> 00:56:27.488
Oh,

1754
00:56:27.504 --> 00:56:27.800
yes.

1755
00:56:28.050 --> 00:56:28.300
Okay.

1756
00:56:30.019 --> 00:56:30.332
I mean,

1757
00:56:30.347 --> 00:56:31.754
it wasn't like about moving on.

1758
00:56:31.755 --> 00:56:32.332
It wasn't about me.

1759
00:56:32.333 --> 00:56:32.472
Yeah,

1760
00:56:32.504 --> 00:56:34.566
we are not having story time about the camp experience,

1761
00:56:34.644 --> 00:56:34.847
Sarah.

1762
00:56:34.848 --> 00:56:35.004
No,

1763
00:56:35.005 --> 00:56:35.847
no story time.

1764
00:56:35.848 --> 00:56:36.754
Even I can see that.

1765
00:56:36.879 --> 00:56:37.316
That's okay.

1766
00:56:38.519 --> 00:56:38.629
So,

1767
00:56:38.988 --> 00:56:39.769
if I may ask.

1768
00:56:40.154 --> 00:56:42.056
What genders are you attracted to?

1769
00:56:42.936 --> 00:56:43.138
Men.

1770
00:56:43.817 --> 00:56:44.017
Men?

1771
00:56:44.438 --> 00:56:44.638
Okay.

1772
00:56:45.298 --> 00:56:45.700
Wonderful.

1773
00:56:45.778 --> 00:56:49.243
I didn't know because I assumed that the woman at the airport that so.

1774
00:56:49.244 --> 00:56:52.423
Yeah.

1775
00:56:52.424 --> 00:56:52.688
All right.

1776
00:56:52.704 --> 00:56:54.071
So what age range for men?

1777
00:56:57.579 --> 00:56:58.048
Honestly,

1778
00:56:58.610 --> 00:57:00.673
someone that's not my exact age.

1779
00:57:01.048 --> 00:57:05.126
I feel like in the past that just hasn't really worked out right.

1780
00:57:05.454 --> 00:57:09.548
I feel like men my age nowadays are very immature.

1781
00:57:11.042 --> 00:57:13.826
There's lots of brain rot going on nowadays.

1782
00:57:13.925 --> 00:57:14.646
Rage bait.

1783
00:57:16.126 --> 00:57:16.427
To me,

1784
00:57:16.747 --> 00:57:17.728
that's different.

1785
00:57:17.747 --> 00:57:19.455
They're rage bait to me.

1786
00:57:19.470 --> 00:57:20.595
Men don't rage bait me.

1787
00:57:20.673 --> 00:57:24.556
I think that's also very immature to do to your girlfriend.

1788
00:57:24.955 --> 00:57:25.775
A lot of them do.

1789
00:57:26.517 --> 00:57:27.361
I'm not making it up.

1790
00:57:28.236 --> 00:57:28.798
Mine don't.

1791
00:57:30.095 --> 00:57:34.533
But I feel like someone a year older is.

1792
00:57:34.783 --> 00:57:35.220
17.

1793
00:57:35.642 --> 00:57:35.767
Yeah.

1794
00:57:36.126 --> 00:57:36.251
Yeah.

1795
00:57:37.345 --> 00:57:37.470
Yeah.

1796
00:57:37.814 --> 00:57:38.189
That's fair.

1797
00:57:38.190 --> 00:57:38.876
Yeah.

1798
00:57:39.002 --> 00:57:39.282
I mean,

1799
00:57:39.342 --> 00:57:40.103
I dated your dad.

1800
00:57:40.104 --> 00:57:40.843
He was a year older.

1801
00:57:41.785 --> 00:57:41.945
Yeah.

1802
00:57:41.946 --> 00:57:42.306
Good for you.

1803
00:57:43.045 --> 00:57:43.166
Yeah.

1804
00:57:43.167 --> 00:57:43.447
The thing is,

1805
00:57:43.466 --> 00:57:44.048
as you get older,

1806
00:57:45.267 --> 00:57:46.771
my wife is 10 years younger than me.

1807
00:57:46.772 --> 00:57:47.607
You're like,

1808
00:57:47.771 --> 00:57:48.388
when you get older.

1809
00:57:48.389 --> 00:57:49.630
And she's a smoke show.

1810
00:57:49.974 --> 00:57:51.334
My wife is a smoke show.

1811
00:57:53.099 --> 00:57:53.654
But it's just,

1812
00:57:53.795 --> 00:57:56.623
it comes down to here and the connection that you have.

1813
00:57:56.685 --> 00:57:57.576
I think when you're younger,

1814
00:57:57.920 --> 00:57:58.154
yes,

1815
00:57:58.216 --> 00:58:00.216
you keep that age range kind of tighter.

1816
00:58:00.217 --> 00:58:00.857
Yeah,

1817
00:58:00.858 --> 00:58:01.170
definitely.

1818
00:58:01.171 --> 00:58:03.170
I feel like you have to.

1819
00:58:04.482 --> 00:58:08.310
If and when you progress in age and you're still looking for that person.

1820
00:58:08.906 --> 00:58:14.231
You get away from chronological age and look more for emotional and,

1821
00:58:14.493 --> 00:58:14.751
you know,

1822
00:58:14.852 --> 00:58:18.856
cerebral attachment and attraction to somebody.

1823
00:58:19.739 --> 00:58:20.716
Emotional.

1824
00:58:20.841 --> 00:58:21.442
Emotional.

1825
00:58:21.559 --> 00:58:22.841
And then when you meet that person,

1826
00:58:22.903 --> 00:58:23.122
I mean,

1827
00:58:23.161 --> 00:58:24.403
I'll be 56 next month.

1828
00:58:24.739 --> 00:58:25.583
I'm older than dirt.

1829
00:58:25.817 --> 00:58:26.286
No,

1830
00:58:26.520 --> 00:58:27.145
you're not.

1831
00:58:27.286 --> 00:58:28.099
I died two weeks ago.

1832
00:58:28.145 --> 00:58:28.724
No one told me.

1833
00:58:28.974 --> 00:58:29.724
It's unbelievable.

1834
00:58:29.911 --> 00:58:31.505
My parents got remarried at 60.

1835
00:58:32.566 --> 00:58:33.328
So it's just like,

1836
00:58:33.507 --> 00:58:33.748
you know,

1837
00:58:35.089 --> 00:58:35.570
so it,

1838
00:58:35.650 --> 00:58:35.769
it,

1839
00:58:35.849 --> 00:58:36.310
but it just,

1840
00:58:36.349 --> 00:58:36.470
it,

1841
00:58:36.509 --> 00:58:37.193
it is what it is.

1842
00:58:37.212 --> 00:58:37.892
And I think it's,

1843
00:58:38.013 --> 00:58:44.240
it's wonderful for you to be so dialed in with who you are getting back to the call that we had ahead of time.

1844
00:58:44.241 --> 00:58:45.701
And this is just food for thought for you.

1845
00:58:46.302 --> 00:58:50.209
That's called a pre-production call because of who you are.

1846
00:58:50.443 --> 00:58:51.630
And because of like,

1847
00:58:51.631 --> 00:58:52.709
we did it our first time

1848
00:58:53.193 --> 00:58:53.427
I do,

1849
00:58:53.552 --> 00:58:55.693
I do with almost every single guest I have on the show,

1850
00:58:55.834 --> 00:58:58.912
because if not the first 10 minutes is like a bad first date.

1851
00:58:58.927 --> 00:58:59.240
Yeah.

1852
00:58:59.766 --> 00:59:00.006
Well,

1853
00:59:00.126 --> 00:59:00.768
what do you like to do?

1854
00:59:00.947 --> 00:59:01.809
What's your favorite color?

1855
00:59:02.748 --> 00:59:03.330
Stop it.

1856
00:59:03.771 --> 00:59:04.049
Please.

1857
00:59:04.830 --> 00:59:05.830
I'd rather go to the dentist.

1858
00:59:05.971 --> 00:59:06.092
No,

1859
00:59:06.334 --> 00:59:06.611
sorry.

1860
00:59:07.533 --> 00:59:07.955
But it's like,

1861
00:59:07.994 --> 00:59:08.111
oh,

1862
00:59:08.135 --> 00:59:08.611
my God.

1863
00:59:08.697 --> 00:59:15.158
And so that's something that because of if you experience anxiety with things like this sometimes,

1864
00:59:15.619 --> 00:59:20.994
I would make that basically you have to do that before any podcast you're on moving forward.

1865
00:59:21.572 --> 00:59:24.057
And I'm sure your mom would support that is to say,

1866
00:59:24.244 --> 00:59:25.369
I'd like a pre-production call,

1867
00:59:25.416 --> 00:59:25.713
please.

1868
00:59:25.729 --> 00:59:26.650
And make sure it is

1869
00:59:27.010 --> 00:59:28.197
Google Meet or Zoom.

1870
00:59:28.478 --> 00:59:30.661
So you can look at least you can look like you got to see me.

1871
00:59:31.481 --> 00:59:32.543
I don't care if I see you guys.

1872
00:59:32.602 --> 00:59:33.485
I've already seen her.

1873
00:59:33.825 --> 00:59:35.504
I've seen you on Instagram and stuff.

1874
00:59:35.524 --> 00:59:36.368
It's totally fine.

1875
00:59:36.626 --> 00:59:37.805
But I just want to hear your voice.

1876
00:59:38.188 --> 00:59:39.649
And so we could connect.

1877
00:59:39.727 --> 00:59:40.313
Yeah.

1878
00:59:40.352 --> 00:59:40.586
Right.

1879
00:59:40.649 --> 00:59:41.251
And then it helps.

1880
00:59:41.329 --> 00:59:43.391
It helps this be a lot more sincere.

1881
00:59:43.610 --> 00:59:43.751
Yeah,

1882
00:59:43.752 --> 00:59:44.094
it does.

1883
00:59:44.211 --> 00:59:44.516
You know,

1884
00:59:44.751 --> 00:59:44.891
and.

1885
00:59:45.582 --> 00:59:48.085
Also just food for thought because I've done a bunch of these.

1886
00:59:48.405 --> 00:59:49.926
If you get off that and if you're like,

1887
00:59:50.087 --> 00:59:50.247
oh,

1888
00:59:50.708 --> 00:59:51.708
this doesn't feel right,

1889
00:59:52.008 --> 00:59:53.731
you tell her immediately and then it's done.

1890
00:59:53.794 --> 00:59:54.895
You won't go on that podcast.

1891
00:59:55.348 --> 00:59:55.848
Yeah.

1892
00:59:55.849 --> 00:59:57.536
And it's protecting your peace.

1893
00:59:57.911 --> 00:59:58.075
Yeah.

1894
00:59:58.551 --> 00:59:58.872
You know,

1895
00:59:59.075 --> 01:00:01.895
it's like wonderful because I think from this,

1896
01:00:02.301 --> 01:00:05.583
there's stuff on here we'll talk about that other people in podcasts around the country go,

1897
01:00:05.926 --> 01:00:06.036
oh,

1898
01:00:06.083 --> 01:00:06.645
my gosh,

1899
01:00:06.739 --> 01:00:08.098
I want to talk to Sophia too.

1900
01:00:09.301 --> 01:00:10.879
It's your peace.

1901
01:00:10.989 --> 01:00:12.067
It's your time.

1902
01:00:12.742 --> 01:00:14.863
And you're absolutely allowed to say no to people,

1903
01:00:14.864 --> 01:00:15.744
which you already do now.

1904
01:00:16.183 --> 01:00:16.382
Yeah.

1905
01:00:16.523 --> 01:00:17.802
You just carry that through to when,

1906
01:00:17.943 --> 01:00:18.064
if,

1907
01:00:18.462 --> 01:00:18.763
you know,

1908
01:00:19.404 --> 01:00:19.665
Jimmy,

1909
01:00:19.822 --> 01:00:22.540
the podcaster in Tallahassee gets ahold of you and says,

1910
01:00:22.564 --> 01:00:23.040
Hey,

1911
01:00:24.087 --> 01:00:24.884
wherever in town,

1912
01:00:24.885 --> 01:00:26.064
I don't know why I said Tallahassee,

1913
01:00:26.065 --> 01:00:26.665
it just came to mind.

1914
01:00:27.103 --> 01:00:27.486
And that,

1915
01:00:28.001 --> 01:00:28.228
you know,

1916
01:00:28.283 --> 01:00:29.267
nothing wrong with Tallahassee.

1917
01:00:29.329 --> 01:00:30.408
Don't hate from Tallahassee,

1918
01:00:30.470 --> 01:00:31.001
please.

1919
01:00:32.079 --> 01:00:33.220
But you're allowed to say no,

1920
01:00:33.501 --> 01:00:35.173
and that's okay to protect your peace.

1921
01:00:35.189 --> 01:00:36.111
Yeah.

1922
01:00:36.112 --> 01:00:36.361
You know,

1923
01:00:36.486 --> 01:00:37.079
and I just,

1924
01:00:37.189 --> 01:00:39.126
I love the fact that you're already doing that.

1925
01:00:39.892 --> 01:00:40.533
I think it's great.

1926
01:00:41.064 --> 01:00:42.111
I think it's absolutely great.

1927
01:00:42.766 --> 01:00:42.986
Um,

1928
01:00:44.026 --> 01:00:45.886
this is my last question for,

1929
01:00:46.046 --> 01:00:46.646
for both of you.

1930
01:00:46.728 --> 01:00:47.708
We'll probably talk about more stuff.

1931
01:00:48.907 --> 01:00:50.286
When you think about the next

1932
01:00:50.767 --> 01:00:53.626
10 years moving forward,

1933
01:00:54.587 --> 01:00:56.485
how do you want people to describe

1934
01:00:56.892 --> 01:00:58.048
Farrah and Sophia?

1935
01:01:00.657 --> 01:01:01.189
I feel like,

1936
01:01:01.314 --> 01:01:01.423
um,

1937
01:01:01.923 --> 01:01:02.048
well,

1938
01:01:02.110 --> 01:01:03.767
I would be 26 in 10 years.

1939
01:01:04.470 --> 01:01:05.110
How old would you be?

1940
01:01:06.173 --> 01:01:06.407
Older.

1941
01:01:06.408 --> 01:01:06.532
Uh,

1942
01:01:07.157 --> 01:01:08.173
like a 90 years old.

1943
01:01:08.189 --> 01:01:08.595
44,

1944
01:01:08.735 --> 01:01:09.907
that's a good age.

1945
01:01:10.189 --> 01:01:10.892
44.

1946
01:01:11.579 --> 01:01:12.189
10 years.

1947
01:01:14.851 --> 01:01:15.072
Okay.

1948
01:01:16.072 --> 01:01:16.332
I mean,

1949
01:01:16.333 --> 01:01:17.654
I feel like in 10 years,

1950
01:01:17.914 --> 01:01:20.015
I would want people to see us as the,

1951
01:01:21.175 --> 01:01:21.296
well,

1952
01:01:21.297 --> 01:01:22.636
we already are an iconic duo,

1953
01:01:22.777 --> 01:01:25.683
but I feel like an iconic duo.

1954
01:01:26.660 --> 01:01:29.308
And I do still plan on looking like this in 10 years.

1955
01:01:29.668 --> 01:01:29.808
Yes,

1956
01:01:29.871 --> 01:01:30.105
I do.

1957
01:01:31.371 --> 01:01:32.652
But I feel like in 10 years.

1958
01:01:34.418 --> 01:01:34.668
I mean,

1959
01:01:34.808 --> 01:01:36.058
I would hope like we would be,

1960
01:01:36.199 --> 01:01:37.308
I don't even know,

1961
01:01:37.339 --> 01:01:38.902
like working together in something.

1962
01:01:39.136 --> 01:01:39.871
The iconic,

1963
01:01:39.933 --> 01:01:42.355
the most iconic mom and daughter duo.

1964
01:01:42.777 --> 01:01:42.964
Yeah.

1965
01:01:43.614 --> 01:01:45.356
I feel like in 10 years we would be

1966
01:01:47.138 --> 01:01:51.906
100 times farther in life than where we are now.

1967
01:01:52.726 --> 01:01:52.906
Yeah,

1968
01:01:53.023 --> 01:01:58.226
I feel like this first part's been just trampolining over all the hiccups in life.

1969
01:01:58.726 --> 01:01:58.952
Yeah,

1970
01:01:58.953 --> 01:01:59.148
you know,

1971
01:01:59.171 --> 01:02:00.132
we're climbing the stairs.

1972
01:02:00.273 --> 01:02:00.413
Yeah,

1973
01:02:00.476 --> 01:02:02.085
we're climbing these stairs.

1974
01:02:02.320 --> 01:02:02.554
Yeah,

1975
01:02:03.554 --> 01:02:03.867
yeah.

1976
01:02:04.101 --> 01:02:04.617
How do you feel?

1977
01:02:04.695 --> 01:02:05.898
I'm getting my workout in.

1978
01:02:05.899 --> 01:02:06.820
My glutes are strong.

1979
01:02:07.054 --> 01:02:07.757
Yeah.

1980
01:02:09.757 --> 01:02:10.648
Use that Stairmaster.

1981
01:02:10.649 --> 01:02:12.242
I'm on that Stairmaster,

1982
01:02:12.288 --> 01:02:12.523
baby.

1983
01:02:13.482 --> 01:02:13.642
Yeah,

1984
01:02:13.762 --> 01:02:17.688
I just think like we are so iconic of a mother daughter.

1985
01:02:18.208 --> 01:02:18.528
I mean,

1986
01:02:18.587 --> 01:02:19.387
like I guess like

1987
01:02:19.887 --> 01:02:21.634
Melissa, Joan Rivers,

1988
01:02:21.727 --> 01:02:22.891
they had something.

1989
01:02:23.329 --> 01:02:26.977
Some people asked me to actually watch her like documentary or something.

1990
01:02:27.376 --> 01:02:29.720
And I had no idea that she lost her husband.

1991
01:02:29.751 --> 01:02:30.704
And then they were like,

1992
01:02:30.954 --> 01:02:31.360
I was like,

1993
01:02:31.407 --> 01:02:31.704
wow,

1994
01:02:31.782 --> 01:02:33.845
this woman's kind of like so similar.

1995
01:02:35.376 --> 01:02:39.095
So I just feel like it would be even better than a Joan and Melissa.

1996
01:02:39.096 --> 01:02:40.626
It would be like Vera and Sophia.

1997
01:02:40.891 --> 01:02:41.173
Duh.

1998
01:02:41.626 --> 01:02:42.095
But yeah.

1999
01:02:43.002 --> 01:02:43.162
Yeah.

2000
01:02:43.643 --> 01:02:44.183
I love that.

2001
01:02:45.505 --> 01:02:45.745
I do.

2002
01:02:46.486 --> 01:02:47.167
You guys are great.

2003
01:02:47.968 --> 01:02:51.991
Is there anything that we haven't talked about that you want to go over?

2004
01:02:53.155 --> 01:02:54.554
That you feel comfortable talking about?

2005
01:02:57.859 --> 01:02:58.015
Well,

2006
01:02:58.077 --> 01:03:01.116
I am currently in the process of writing my own book.

2007
01:03:01.788 --> 01:03:01.976
Yes,

2008
01:03:02.023 --> 01:03:02.741
she is.

2009
01:03:02.820 --> 01:03:04.023
I'm really excited for Sophia.

2010
01:03:04.024 --> 01:03:06.007
My first book of my life.

2011
01:03:06.148 --> 01:03:06.804
The firstie.

2012
01:03:07.288 --> 01:03:07.632
Yes.

2013
01:03:08.070 --> 01:03:08.601
Guess what?

2014
01:03:09.085 --> 01:03:09.335
What?

2015
01:03:09.507 --> 01:03:10.710
When did I write my first book,

2016
01:03:10.757 --> 01:03:10.882
y'all?

2017
01:03:12.102 --> 01:03:12.642
I don't know.

2018
01:03:12.802 --> 01:03:12.982
When?

2019
01:03:13.843 --> 01:03:14.043
When?

2020
01:03:16.482 --> 01:03:17.443
I think it was,

2021
01:03:17.545 --> 01:03:19.904
I believe it was released 2012.

2022
01:03:19.924 --> 01:03:20.900
I believe I was like,

2023
01:03:21.283 --> 01:03:22.322
did I just turn like 20?

2024
01:03:22.447 --> 01:03:23.182
Was it 19?

2025
01:03:24.127 --> 01:03:24.424
Sophia,

2026
01:03:24.425 --> 01:03:27.229
I'm just basically saying that you are writing a book before me.

2027
01:03:27.525 --> 01:03:29.346
That is one thing you are doing before me.

2028
01:03:30.580 --> 01:03:31.283
What's the book about?

2029
01:03:31.830 --> 01:03:33.127
It is about my life,

2030
01:03:33.627 --> 01:03:35.190
my life experiences,

2031
01:03:36.315 --> 01:03:37.455
explaining the lore,

2032
01:03:38.502 --> 01:03:39.471
as some might say.

2033
01:03:39.846 --> 01:03:40.427
Hmm.

2034
01:03:40.428 --> 01:03:41.027
What's the lore?

2035
01:03:41.127 --> 01:03:41.988
What's that in that book?

2036
01:03:41.989 --> 01:03:42.289
Hmm.

2037
01:03:42.750 --> 01:03:43.851
Do you know what lore is?

2038
01:03:44.090 --> 01:03:44.672
Please tell me.

2039
01:03:44.891 --> 01:03:45.172
Okay.

2040
01:03:45.269 --> 01:03:45.891
What it means to you.

2041
01:03:46.691 --> 01:03:47.473
It's just like,

2042
01:03:47.555 --> 01:03:47.855
um,

2043
01:03:48.512 --> 01:03:49.918
past experiences in your life.

2044
01:03:50.434 --> 01:03:51.355
That's true.

2045
01:03:51.418 --> 01:03:52.418
Stories of your life.

2046
01:03:52.699 --> 01:03:52.957
Lore.

2047
01:03:53.543 --> 01:03:54.199
It's so wild.

2048
01:03:54.238 --> 01:03:54.738
My book,

2049
01:03:54.965 --> 01:03:56.027
my first memoir,

2050
01:03:56.105 --> 01:04:01.387
my first book was just about the teeny tiny first beginnings of my life when I just had you.

2051
01:04:01.934 --> 01:04:02.371
Yeah.

2052
01:04:03.434 --> 01:04:04.871
Happy my life is very different.

2053
01:04:05.090 --> 01:04:05.746
Do you have it written?

2054
01:04:06.637 --> 01:04:06.809
Um,

2055
01:04:06.855 --> 01:04:07.777
it's still being written.

2056
01:04:08.637 --> 01:04:08.855
Yes.

2057
01:04:09.170 --> 01:04:10.951
I feel like I'm a very good writer,

2058
01:04:11.133 --> 01:04:13.817
although I do have difficulties reading.

2059
01:04:14.414 --> 01:04:18.340
But I feel like that's just a talent for me.

2060
01:04:18.520 --> 01:04:19.520
Do you have a deadline for it?

2061
01:04:19.521 --> 01:04:19.957
Like if you said,

2062
01:04:20.004 --> 01:04:20.223
okay,

2063
01:04:20.301 --> 01:04:20.863
by April

2064
01:04:21.481 --> 01:04:22.567
15th, this thing's going to be done.

2065
01:04:22.746 --> 01:04:22.863
No,

2066
01:04:23.028 --> 01:04:24.387
I don't like deadlines.

2067
01:04:24.567 --> 01:04:24.684
No?

2068
01:04:24.988 --> 01:04:25.793
They stress me out.

2069
01:04:26.449 --> 01:04:28.356
And I always felt like even in publishing,

2070
01:04:28.684 --> 01:04:30.278
publishing gets slow.

2071
01:04:31.246 --> 01:04:31.793
Everything,

2072
01:04:31.996 --> 01:04:33.012
like my first print.

2073
01:04:33.170 --> 01:04:36.499
was totally botched and like bad reviews by the publisher.

2074
01:04:37.141 --> 01:04:38.044
Like no matter what,

2075
01:04:38.122 --> 01:04:41.891
it's just like you take your time to write your story and it is amazing.

2076
01:04:41.915 --> 01:04:43.899
Like my memoir is my best friend.

2077
01:04:44.601 --> 01:04:46.103
Like,

2078
01:04:46.104 --> 01:04:47.324
I freaking love that book.

2079
01:04:48.266 --> 01:04:50.168
Yeah.

2080
01:04:50.169 --> 01:04:50.309
I mean,

2081
01:04:50.310 --> 01:04:52.270
I'm putting 16 years into this book,

2082
01:04:52.348 --> 01:04:55.614
so it's going to not be a deadline in this book.

2083
01:04:55.715 --> 01:04:56.129
Good for you.

2084
01:04:56.356 --> 01:04:57.035
Yeah.

2085
01:04:57.090 --> 01:04:57.254
Like,

2086
01:04:57.332 --> 01:04:58.035
fully live your

2087
01:04:58.653 --> 01:04:59.012
16th year.

2088
01:04:59.153 --> 01:05:00.059
You know what I'm saying?

2089
01:05:00.215 --> 01:05:00.364
Yes.

2090
01:05:00.365 --> 01:05:01.785
Before you close those chapters.

2091
01:05:02.223 --> 01:05:02.942
As soon as it's done,

2092
01:05:02.943 --> 01:05:03.754
I want you to come back on.

2093
01:05:04.145 --> 01:05:04.285
Okay.

2094
01:05:04.286 --> 01:05:05.301
And we'll talk about it.

2095
01:05:05.598 --> 01:05:08.410
Sophia's having a very big sweet 16 year.

2096
01:05:08.629 --> 01:05:08.832
Like,

2097
01:05:09.910 --> 01:05:13.364
totally different years from my sweet 16 to her sweet 16.

2098
01:05:13.473 --> 01:05:13.895
It's just.

2099
01:05:14.449 --> 01:05:21.917
So great being a mom and like seeing a whole like just an uprising in youth in like such a purposeful way.

2100
01:05:22.237 --> 01:05:22.757
I love it.

2101
01:05:23.655 --> 01:05:24.718
Do you want to be a mom sometime?

2102
01:05:26.202 --> 01:05:26.538
Yes,

2103
01:05:26.780 --> 01:05:28.546
but not when I'm a teenager.

2104
01:05:29.468 --> 01:05:32.390
Not when the word teen is at the end of my age.

2105
01:05:33.327 --> 01:05:35.843
We've heard enough of teen mom for the end of our lifetime.

2106
01:05:35.874 --> 01:05:39.280
I feel like people want me to become a teen mom and they're like,

2107
01:05:39.686 --> 01:05:41.561
continue on this pattern,

2108
01:05:41.640 --> 01:05:42.421
this legacy.

2109
01:05:42.593 --> 01:05:43.015
And I'm like.

2110
01:05:43.713 --> 01:05:43.833
No,

2111
01:05:44.254 --> 01:05:44.974
thank you.

2112
01:05:45.835 --> 01:05:45.956
No,

2113
01:05:46.117 --> 01:05:46.515
thanks.

2114
01:05:46.937 --> 01:05:49.839
And I feel like a lot of people expect that to happen for some reason.

2115
01:05:50.160 --> 01:05:50.902
It's very odd,

2116
01:05:51.101 --> 01:05:52.824
but I don't plan on that.

2117
01:05:54.206 --> 01:05:54.480
Sophia,

2118
01:05:54.566 --> 01:06:03.058
what do you think of like your your impression of being a teen mom and what it is and how like that's wildly different from your reality?

2119
01:06:03.136 --> 01:06:04.777
Like you've mentioned,

2120
01:06:05.167 --> 01:06:05.292
oh,

2121
01:06:05.293 --> 01:06:05.574
my God,

2122
01:06:05.589 --> 01:06:07.980
I can't imagine what my mom was going through at 16.

2123
01:06:08.292 --> 01:06:08.558
Yeah,

2124
01:06:08.761 --> 01:06:09.042
I mean,

2125
01:06:09.074 --> 01:06:10.433
I couldn't imagine growing.

2126
01:06:10.717 --> 01:06:13.559
a human child inside of my stomach right now.

2127
01:06:14.141 --> 01:06:22.371
I couldn't imagine going through what you went through after you gave birth to me and that whole thing.

2128
01:06:23.387 --> 01:06:24.707
Of loss or what's the thing?

2129
01:06:24.793 --> 01:06:24.950
Sorry,

2130
01:06:24.951 --> 01:06:26.215
there were so many things that happened to me.

2131
01:06:26.216 --> 01:06:27.950
The thing with everything,

2132
01:06:28.200 --> 01:06:28.637
everything.

2133
01:06:28.778 --> 01:06:28.934
Yeah,

2134
01:06:29.137 --> 01:06:29.496
everything.

2135
01:06:30.403 --> 01:06:33.575
That was traumatizing for you and I can't imagine myself going through that,

2136
01:06:33.621 --> 01:06:37.325
but also just raising a child in general right now.

2137
01:06:38.257 --> 01:06:39.077
I couldn't imagine that.

2138
01:06:39.117 --> 01:06:39.298
I mean,

2139
01:06:39.378 --> 01:06:39.918
if I did,

2140
01:06:39.958 --> 01:06:40.557
I would love it,

2141
01:06:40.678 --> 01:06:44.178
and it would be like my own mini vampire child.

2142
01:06:44.257 --> 01:06:44.878
Hilarious.

2143
01:06:45.417 --> 01:06:46.518
But no,

2144
01:06:46.698 --> 01:06:47.378
I don't think

2145
01:06:47.862 --> 01:06:48.682
I could do that.

2146
01:06:49.135 --> 01:06:49.401
I mean,

2147
01:06:49.440 --> 01:06:53.284
I don't support teen pregnancy,

2148
01:06:53.378 --> 01:06:56.159
but I do support supporting teen mothers,

2149
01:06:56.815 --> 01:07:05.268
and I think that's what everyone should do instead of shame them and make their life even more difficult every day because it already is for them.

2150
01:07:05.269 --> 01:07:05.503
Sophia,

2151
01:07:05.690 --> 01:07:07.456
how come you didn't end up to be a teen?

2152
01:07:09.242 --> 01:07:11.225
a pregnant teen like your mom at this age?

2153
01:07:11.264 --> 01:07:12.565
How come you didn't end up like that?

2154
01:07:13.127 --> 01:07:15.588
Because I have sex education.

2155
01:07:16.268 --> 01:07:19.955
What was the most important part of your mother's sex education to you?

2156
01:07:20.674 --> 01:07:23.354
I would say laws and how there's really no support.

2157
01:07:23.355 --> 01:07:23.479
Right.

2158
01:07:26.565 --> 01:07:27.846
Yeah.

2159
01:07:27.862 --> 01:07:28.221
I mean,

2160
01:07:30.159 --> 01:07:32.565
I'm not much into laws and stuff,

2161
01:07:32.643 --> 01:07:36.174
but I am very educated on what to do.

2162
01:07:38.505 --> 01:07:39.246
If you does it,

2163
01:07:39.466 --> 01:07:39.907
does it?

2164
01:07:40.067 --> 01:07:40.247
Yeah.

2165
01:07:40.388 --> 01:07:44.450
Does it sound fun to abort something on your body?

2166
01:07:45.372 --> 01:07:46.915
I will not be speaking about that.

2167
01:07:47.236 --> 01:07:47.353
Oh,

2168
01:07:47.354 --> 01:07:47.470
no.

2169
01:07:47.876 --> 01:07:48.454
I'm just saying,

2170
01:07:48.478 --> 01:07:48.736
like,

2171
01:07:49.197 --> 01:07:50.837
I basically went over the laws of like,

2172
01:07:50.876 --> 01:07:51.056
hey,

2173
01:07:51.134 --> 01:07:53.564
we don't you can't have regular support.

2174
01:07:53.603 --> 01:07:57.251
Like men of a certain age can get vasectomies.

2175
01:07:57.564 --> 01:07:59.158
Women of a certain age can get their tubes.

2176
01:07:59.704 --> 01:08:01.173
I feel like all men,

2177
01:08:01.267 --> 01:08:02.564
no matter what age they are,

2178
01:08:02.595 --> 01:08:05.158
if you have if you know what sex is.

2179
01:08:05.877 --> 01:08:06.317
As a man,

2180
01:08:06.357 --> 01:08:08.118
I feel like you should get a vasectomy,

2181
01:08:08.198 --> 01:08:09.698
especially when you're a teenager.

2182
01:08:10.499 --> 01:08:10.639
Yeah.

2183
01:08:10.799 --> 01:08:15.135
But I think the reason why I brought this up and this like law and stuff that I advocate for,

2184
01:08:15.698 --> 01:08:16.135
I was like,

2185
01:08:16.221 --> 01:08:16.682
oh my God,

2186
01:08:16.737 --> 01:08:17.096
Sophia,

2187
01:08:18.620 --> 01:08:26.924
it's like some people can walk into a grocery store or like walk into a store now and they can get like just regular birth control,

2188
01:08:26.940 --> 01:08:29.174
like a month's worth of birth control.

2189
01:08:29.846 --> 01:08:31.721
And I never was able to do that.

2190
01:08:31.784 --> 01:08:33.128
And so I was tracking,

2191
01:08:33.643 --> 01:08:33.940
right?

2192
01:08:34.268 --> 01:08:34.909
If you remember.

2193
01:08:35.425 --> 01:08:37.989
I track with you or you'll bring it up to me sometimes like,

2194
01:08:38.067 --> 01:08:38.268
oh,

2195
01:08:38.348 --> 01:08:38.707
plan B,

2196
01:08:39.088 --> 01:08:39.711
no age,

2197
01:08:39.770 --> 01:08:40.571
no license,

2198
01:08:40.572 --> 01:08:41.653
2025,

2199
01:08:41.711 --> 01:08:42.250
October.

2200
01:08:42.633 --> 01:08:42.750
Yeah,

2201
01:08:42.751 --> 01:08:44.391
you can get at any age now.

2202
01:08:44.571 --> 01:08:45.157
Any age,

2203
01:08:45.211 --> 01:08:45.735
no name,

2204
01:08:45.736 --> 01:08:46.157
no face,

2205
01:08:46.158 --> 01:08:46.617
no place.

2206
01:08:46.797 --> 01:08:47.117
Yeah.

2207
01:08:47.157 --> 01:08:47.977
And so like,

2208
01:08:48.078 --> 01:08:55.446
as I've shared with you where I started in my prevention and lack of support of not having prevention,

2209
01:08:55.508 --> 01:08:56.602
support and contraception.

2210
01:08:57.649 --> 01:09:02.367
And I think like seeing your age group be online and be like,

2211
01:09:02.761 --> 01:09:07.328
I'm 16 and I'm a boy and I want a vasectomy because I don't want to cause this harm to my girlfriend.

2212
01:09:07.867 --> 01:09:11.171
And so I started sharing this with you because

2213
01:09:11.851 --> 01:09:12.874
I wanted you to know,

2214
01:09:13.148 --> 01:09:13.374
like,

2215
01:09:13.914 --> 01:09:17.015
this is what causes a struggle for young parents.

2216
01:09:17.773 --> 01:09:19.335
It's not their fault.

2217
01:09:20.164 --> 01:09:22.101
It's just a feature in our society.

2218
01:09:22.539 --> 01:09:25.304
And I think the reason why I just kind of like open that,

2219
01:09:25.429 --> 01:09:30.570
I lay it out and I track it with you and I share this journey is because I was shamed.

2220
01:09:30.585 --> 01:09:31.304
I was blamed.

2221
01:09:31.367 --> 01:09:31.632
people.

2222
01:09:32.057 --> 01:09:32.297
you know,

2223
01:09:32.337 --> 01:09:36.340
get peer pressure and to go go a crisis route.

2224
01:09:36.860 --> 01:09:38.063
And then they'll regret it.

2225
01:09:38.102 --> 01:09:43.227
Like some people on our show that we happen to be a part of and our lives were a part of.

2226
01:09:43.684 --> 01:09:45.145
They struggle massively,

2227
01:09:45.846 --> 01:09:51.871
like even with giving their children away or some other things that had happened with their kids or lives or bodies and their things.

2228
01:09:52.270 --> 01:09:59.887
So that's why I share that tracking and I share that change because you'll run into someone at some point and they're going to say,

2229
01:09:59.934 --> 01:10:00.121
like,

2230
01:10:00.153 --> 01:10:03.903
I had an abortion and I went through a very hard time or,

2231
01:10:04.606 --> 01:10:04.871
you know,

2232
01:10:04.981 --> 01:10:06.325
my baby daddy this or this.

2233
01:10:07.028 --> 01:10:08.028
These are relationships.

2234
01:10:08.293 --> 01:10:09.543
This is this is humanity.

2235
01:10:10.028 --> 01:10:13.231
And there's so many different different ways of life.

2236
01:10:13.648 --> 01:10:14.509
to go and walk.

2237
01:10:14.949 --> 01:10:15.410
But again,

2238
01:10:15.450 --> 01:10:21.154
like if you could help someone feel better or if you could see like what they're struggling through or if someone needs help,

2239
01:10:21.677 --> 01:10:22.334
like to me,

2240
01:10:23.295 --> 01:10:25.162
that's helping a generation give back,

2241
01:10:25.216 --> 01:10:27.662
like passing that up to you so that you could see that.

2242
01:10:28.326 --> 01:10:29.912
Cause a lot of people just let me suffer.

2243
01:10:30.521 --> 01:10:31.302
And I think like,

2244
01:10:31.662 --> 01:10:32.006
I don't,

2245
01:10:32.162 --> 01:10:40.021
I don't want to have or raise a child that would ever let someone suffer and they would stand up and they would support people and they could talk for them.

2246
01:10:40.787 --> 01:10:40.927
Yeah.

2247
01:10:40.974 --> 01:10:42.193
A lot of people want change,

2248
01:10:42.240 --> 01:10:43.193
but they can't speak.

2249
01:10:43.972 --> 01:10:48.075
And I'd hope my child could speak for others when they can't speak for themselves.

2250
01:10:48.575 --> 01:10:48.696
Yeah.

2251
01:10:49.259 --> 01:10:49.395
Yeah.

2252
01:10:50.958 --> 01:10:52.958
It's a blessing to have a public figure stance.

2253
01:10:53.825 --> 01:10:55.505
And some people just don't know what to do with it.

2254
01:10:55.506 --> 01:11:02.044
And I think as a parent and as someone who had to learn words and try to figure out what to do with her own platform that was given to her,

2255
01:11:02.153 --> 01:11:03.138
I just want

2256
01:11:04.059 --> 01:11:07.200
Sophia to hear as much support and as much help to think through things.

2257
01:11:07.919 --> 01:11:09.091
It's hard to have those words.

2258
01:11:09.294 --> 01:11:10.341
It's hard to have it all.

2259
01:11:10.481 --> 01:11:11.778
Like at such a young age,

2260
01:11:11.825 --> 01:11:12.497
it really is.

2261
01:11:13.252 --> 01:11:14.654
Do you feel you're getting the support that you need?

2262
01:11:15.654 --> 01:11:16.416
100%.

2263
01:11:16.435 --> 01:11:16.957
I think so too.

2264
01:11:17.316 --> 01:11:17.617
Yeah.

2265
01:11:17.618 --> 01:11:17.738
Yeah.

2266
01:11:17.879 --> 01:11:18.437
I think so too.

2267
01:11:18.976 --> 01:11:19.800
I think you're just fine.

2268
01:11:21.300 --> 01:11:22.863
The best advice,

2269
01:11:22.941 --> 01:11:23.160
this is,

2270
01:11:23.161 --> 01:11:25.043
I was younger and I'm dating myself,

2271
01:11:25.082 --> 01:11:30.261
but the best advice a girl could ever get that's birth control is keep an aspirin between your knees.

2272
01:11:31.230 --> 01:11:32.371
Aspirin between your knees.

2273
01:11:32.372 --> 01:11:32.511
Oh yeah.

2274
01:11:32.512 --> 01:11:33.714
Keep your legs closed at all times.

2275
01:11:33.886 --> 01:11:34.214
That's it.

2276
01:11:34.215 --> 01:11:34.449
The end.

2277
01:11:34.450 --> 01:11:34.558
Yeah.

2278
01:11:35.214 --> 01:11:35.636
The joke.

2279
01:11:36.232 --> 01:11:36.352
Yeah.

2280
01:11:36.453 --> 01:11:37.054
That's all there is.

2281
01:11:37.055 --> 01:11:37.733
That's all you should do.

2282
01:11:37.893 --> 01:11:38.354
I was like,

2283
01:11:38.694 --> 01:11:39.075
aspirin?

2284
01:11:39.216 --> 01:11:39.456
Okay.

2285
01:11:39.457 --> 01:11:40.337
It's basically abstinence,

2286
01:11:40.338 --> 01:11:40.837
which is like.

2287
01:11:41.056 --> 01:11:41.177
Oh,

2288
01:11:41.239 --> 01:11:41.657
my God.

2289
01:11:41.677 --> 01:11:42.337
I'm so slow.

2290
01:11:42.380 --> 01:11:43.181
I didn't get that.

2291
01:11:43.182 --> 01:11:43.259
Oh,

2292
01:11:43.260 --> 01:11:43.638
my gosh.

2293
01:11:43.981 --> 01:11:44.778
I've got this one.

2294
01:11:44.779 --> 01:11:45.138
It's okay.

2295
01:11:45.263 --> 01:11:47.380
This is why I was a teen and pregnant,

2296
01:11:47.381 --> 01:11:47.583
you know?

2297
01:11:47.584 --> 01:11:48.145
That's why I was like,

2298
01:11:48.200 --> 01:11:48.927
aspirin's in my knees.

2299
01:11:48.928 --> 01:11:50.427
Have you seen me at 16 yet?

2300
01:11:50.428 --> 01:11:51.427
What the hell's wrong with you?

2301
01:11:51.731 --> 01:11:52.044
I'm like,

2302
01:11:52.075 --> 01:11:52.903
let me get that joke.

2303
01:11:53.216 --> 01:11:53.653
How dare you?

2304
01:11:54.294 --> 01:11:55.013
This is the last thing,

2305
01:11:55.014 --> 01:11:55.794
and we can cut it if we want to,

2306
01:11:55.795 --> 01:11:57.059
but are you and Janelle still fighting?

2307
01:11:57.372 --> 01:11:58.013
Because I don't like it.

2308
01:11:58.434 --> 01:11:58.559
Oh,

2309
01:11:58.794 --> 01:11:59.809
I don't talk to her.

2310
01:11:59.981 --> 01:12:00.153
Okay,

2311
01:12:00.154 --> 01:12:01.013
because I've had her on.

2312
01:12:01.059 --> 01:12:01.997
I thought she was very nice.

2313
01:12:02.122 --> 01:12:02.778
I love you.

2314
01:12:03.280 --> 01:12:03.881
I adore you.

2315
01:12:04.041 --> 01:12:05.442
I'm not here to play favorites.

2316
01:12:05.542 --> 01:12:06.684
You can love everybody.

2317
01:12:07.143 --> 01:12:08.845
But I'm just wondering the whole thing.

2318
01:12:08.887 --> 01:12:09.387
I was just like,

2319
01:12:09.966 --> 01:12:10.188
really?

2320
01:12:10.189 --> 01:12:12.145
Because I just saw both you guys going at it.

2321
01:12:12.411 --> 01:12:13.231
I didn't see why.

2322
01:12:13.270 --> 01:12:14.052
I didn't get into it.

2323
01:12:14.575 --> 01:12:17.552
It's just I saw you're not a negative person.

2324
01:12:17.591 --> 01:12:18.653
That's why I texted the other day.

2325
01:12:18.794 --> 01:12:19.059
I'm like,

2326
01:12:19.075 --> 01:12:19.872
just how are you?

2327
01:12:19.903 --> 01:12:20.512
How are you doing?

2328
01:12:20.575 --> 01:12:20.903
Just because

2329
01:12:21.684 --> 01:12:22.637
I love who you are.

2330
01:12:22.762 --> 01:12:23.294
You're my homie.

2331
01:12:23.512 --> 01:12:23.887
Thank you.

2332
01:12:24.012 --> 01:12:24.200
Right.

2333
01:12:24.216 --> 01:12:24.544
You're welcome.

2334
01:12:24.545 --> 01:12:25.044
I appreciate it.

2335
01:12:25.059 --> 01:12:25.247
Right.

2336
01:12:25.278 --> 01:12:26.684
I just think you're a good person.

2337
01:12:26.747 --> 01:12:30.559
And it was me just kind of checking in as just being like an.

2338
01:12:30.596 --> 01:12:33.436
An older guy in a non-creepy way who,

2339
01:12:34.256 --> 01:12:34.436
right,

2340
01:12:34.477 --> 01:12:34.737
just goes,

2341
01:12:34.955 --> 01:12:35.518
how are you?

2342
01:12:35.955 --> 01:12:36.139
And

2343
01:12:36.537 --> 01:12:36.979
I just,

2344
01:12:37.139 --> 01:12:37.678
I love you.

2345
01:12:37.979 --> 01:12:39.862
I love you posting positive stuff.

2346
01:12:39.994 --> 01:12:40.182
Yeah.

2347
01:12:40.338 --> 01:12:41.096
And when I saw that,

2348
01:12:41.119 --> 01:12:41.479
I was like,

2349
01:12:41.760 --> 01:12:42.182
oh,

2350
01:12:42.541 --> 01:12:43.659
that makes me feel bad.

2351
01:12:44.862 --> 01:12:45.323
That's all.

2352
01:12:45.776 --> 01:12:45.955
Yeah.

2353
01:12:46.323 --> 01:12:46.784
I mean,

2354
01:12:47.705 --> 01:12:50.659
I don't really know what people think of my reactions to people,

2355
01:12:50.737 --> 01:12:55.518
but I'm not going to tolerate someone calling me names,

2356
01:12:56.159 --> 01:12:59.049
telling me how to be a mom friend.

2357
01:13:00.028 --> 01:13:00.829
telling me how to be a,

2358
01:13:01.230 --> 01:13:01.470
like,

2359
01:13:02.230 --> 01:13:03.530
I don't do the mom group thing.

2360
01:13:04.273 --> 01:13:06.132
I like my therapist,

2361
01:13:06.335 --> 01:13:07.413
my psychiatrist,

2362
01:13:07.554 --> 01:13:10.062
everybody who's taught me how to be and live happy.

2363
01:13:10.796 --> 01:13:10.999
Um,

2364
01:13:11.476 --> 01:13:14.960
like literally they would have said,

2365
01:13:16.030 --> 01:13:16.202
like,

2366
01:13:16.265 --> 01:13:17.624
don't even talk to this person at all.

2367
01:13:17.625 --> 01:13:18.343
And what were you doing?

2368
01:13:18.359 --> 01:13:19.234
Talk to this person.

2369
01:13:19.374 --> 01:13:19.905
I think

2370
01:13:21.390 --> 01:13:22.749
I've tried to,

2371
01:13:23.265 --> 01:13:23.609
um,

2372
01:13:24.187 --> 01:13:28.234
open myself up to people from my cast and

2373
01:13:29.328 --> 01:13:33.012
I can't be ever okay after,

2374
01:13:33.031 --> 01:13:33.291
I guess,

2375
01:13:33.354 --> 01:13:35.416
like this wonderful discussion that we've just had.

2376
01:13:36.416 --> 01:13:43.502
I guess I can't ever be okay with seeing habitual kind of like non-support to your children.

2377
01:13:44.182 --> 01:13:53.072
And if today your child doesn't live with you after years and years and years of the child not living with you and the back and the forth and the hurt and the harm.

2378
01:13:53.666 --> 01:13:54.197
Again,

2379
01:13:54.338 --> 01:13:55.588
I think I just said it nicely.

2380
01:13:55.697 --> 01:13:57.697
Like if I keep seeing that.

2381
01:13:59.037 --> 01:14:00.959
I can only imagine how that kid feels,

2382
01:14:01.119 --> 01:14:02.141
his self-esteem,

2383
01:14:02.559 --> 01:14:03.859
his self-confidence.

2384
01:14:04.582 --> 01:14:05.602
And that was me.

2385
01:14:06.563 --> 01:14:07.508
That was me growing up.

2386
01:14:08.188 --> 01:14:08.563
And

2387
01:14:10.609 --> 01:14:12.492
I guess I feel for teenagers.

2388
01:14:12.609 --> 01:14:14.508
I guess I feel for child development.

2389
01:14:17.211 --> 01:14:18.602
I definitely feel for,

2390
01:14:18.836 --> 01:14:19.117
you know,

2391
01:14:19.383 --> 01:14:20.383
abused mothers.

2392
01:14:21.492 --> 01:14:22.883
I hate to see that.

2393
01:14:23.680 --> 01:14:25.086
I love to support people,

2394
01:14:25.258 --> 01:14:26.508
but yeah.

2395
01:14:26.936 --> 01:14:29.039
I think everyone can choose their own side.

2396
01:14:29.078 --> 01:14:30.660
They can choose to like whoever they want.

2397
01:14:31.300 --> 01:14:33.062
They don't have to agree with my opinions.

2398
01:14:33.082 --> 01:14:35.066
They don't have to agree with me cutting somebody off.

2399
01:14:36.629 --> 01:14:37.324
And that's that.

2400
01:14:37.488 --> 01:14:37.847
I mean,

2401
01:14:38.410 --> 01:14:42.449
I don't care if teen mom blogger women don't agree with me.

2402
01:14:45.173 --> 01:14:49.435
I think I've just come to a whole rounded thing of

2403
01:14:51.060 --> 01:14:53.958
I just don't care about the teen mom franchise anymore.

2404
01:14:53.997 --> 01:14:56.380
I know it's going to come probably out very hard.

2405
01:14:56.903 --> 01:15:05.857
But I think if that if having if having mom friends who don't treat their kids well is important to people,

2406
01:15:08.075 --> 01:15:10.403
then I think that needs to go be important to people.

2407
01:15:12.047 --> 01:15:17.069
to continue to have teen mom bloggers and drama and talking about kids and stuff.

2408
01:15:17.167 --> 01:15:17.429
Again,

2409
01:15:17.569 --> 01:15:20.609
I don't need to be a part of mom groups.

2410
01:15:21.632 --> 01:15:24.866
I actually think that causes a lot of harm and hurt is what I've,

2411
01:15:24.867 --> 01:15:25.187
I think

2412
01:15:25.788 --> 01:15:29.194
I opened myself up a little bit to teen moms on my cast this year,

2413
01:15:29.898 --> 01:15:33.757
and I've never done that for probably like over a decade,

2414
01:15:33.788 --> 01:15:34.632
to be honest with you.

2415
01:15:35.398 --> 01:15:37.773
And by me trying,

2416
01:15:38.257 --> 01:15:41.194
trying to be an extension of something.

2417
01:15:41.631 --> 01:15:44.615
I think it actually opened up again,

2418
01:15:44.695 --> 01:15:46.394
just trauma that I'm not,

2419
01:15:46.695 --> 01:15:47.257
I don't need,

2420
01:15:47.519 --> 01:15:51.277
I don't need to hold anything from anybody else's life.

2421
01:15:52.081 --> 01:15:54.480
And yeah,

2422
01:15:54.925 --> 01:15:55.120
there's,

2423
01:15:55.308 --> 01:15:57.620
there's a lot of internal stuff there that I honestly,

2424
01:15:58.042 --> 01:15:58.667
I just wish

2425
01:15:59.073 --> 01:15:59.902
Janelle the best.

2426
01:16:00.089 --> 01:16:00.792
I wish,

2427
01:16:00.793 --> 01:16:03.105
I wish actually not only Janelle the best,

2428
01:16:03.198 --> 01:16:06.542
I wish every single teen mom on the show the best.

2429
01:16:07.855 --> 01:16:09.902
I think I am just completely.

2430
01:16:11.079 --> 01:16:14.522
I'm utterly done with Teen Mom franchise stuff.

2431
01:16:14.884 --> 01:16:19.891
And I think I'm definitely needing to do that to just make space for,

2432
01:16:20.024 --> 01:16:20.368
again,

2433
01:16:21.306 --> 01:16:22.407
I'm on a stepmaster.

2434
01:16:23.470 --> 01:16:24.149
Stairmaster.

2435
01:16:24.150 --> 01:16:24.274
Yeah,

2436
01:16:24.275 --> 01:16:24.970
my stepmaster,

2437
01:16:24.971 --> 01:16:25.852
my stairmaster.

2438
01:16:26.376 --> 01:16:26.493
Oh,

2439
01:16:26.571 --> 01:16:26.774
yeah.

2440
01:16:26.852 --> 01:16:27.376
And I think,

2441
01:16:27.470 --> 01:16:27.751
like,

2442
01:16:28.673 --> 01:16:31.298
in order to move on and just spend time with Sophia and I and,

2443
01:16:31.360 --> 01:16:31.563
like,

2444
01:16:31.657 --> 01:16:32.907
the hard work that I've put in,

2445
01:16:33.798 --> 01:16:40.110
I literally cannot open up my spirit to anything really sad to me right now.

2446
01:16:40.141 --> 01:16:40.688
I think like.

2447
01:16:41.287 --> 01:16:50.088
Me just fighting for a year and a half with academia and all of that and then seeing some other stuff with parenting.

2448
01:16:50.627 --> 01:16:54.166
I think I'm really just protecting my heart and my my mind.

2449
01:16:54.252 --> 01:16:55.729
Like I it actually makes me cry.

2450
01:16:55.730 --> 01:16:57.252
It actually makes me sick.

2451
01:16:57.846 --> 01:17:01.236
And so I think like when people see me say something and cut people off,

2452
01:17:01.533 --> 01:17:09.018
I don't think to the detriment that they understand how much I feel like I really feel like it really bothers me for days.

2453
01:17:09.486 --> 01:17:09.939
if I

2454
01:17:10.739 --> 01:17:13.240
cure anything toxic to poor children.

2455
01:17:13.800 --> 01:17:16.361
Like I think we're so advanced,

2456
01:17:16.439 --> 01:17:16.681
right?

2457
01:17:16.802 --> 01:17:19.177
We have all the things like you walk out here in Vegas,

2458
01:17:19.178 --> 01:17:20.622
like you have all the fun,

2459
01:17:20.661 --> 01:17:21.638
you have all the,

2460
01:17:21.639 --> 01:17:22.841
you have all this luxury.

2461
01:17:23.443 --> 01:17:23.701
Okay.

2462
01:17:23.880 --> 01:17:24.583
Growing up in Iowa,

2463
01:17:24.701 --> 01:17:25.404
I didn't have this,

2464
01:17:25.685 --> 01:17:27.755
but you have all this luxury around you.

2465
01:17:28.505 --> 01:17:31.005
And instead of enjoying that with your kids,

2466
01:17:31.896 --> 01:17:33.318
we want to have a broken home.

2467
01:17:34.583 --> 01:17:38.708
We want to take them to other places or a foster care or everybody upset.

2468
01:17:39.224 --> 01:17:39.911
And I just don't.

2469
01:17:40.007 --> 01:17:43.951
I just know like life again is too short and time.

2470
01:17:44.713 --> 01:17:46.474
And that's even why I've stopped dating.

2471
01:17:47.134 --> 01:17:48.119
Like I was just,

2472
01:17:48.572 --> 01:17:48.697
my,

2473
01:17:48.877 --> 01:17:49.900
my life's not perfect,

2474
01:17:49.978 --> 01:17:50.174
but

2475
01:17:51.041 --> 01:17:55.502
I just know it's like been a really hurtful for me this year and I just can't have any more right now.

2476
01:17:55.924 --> 01:17:56.291
So yeah,

2477
01:17:56.416 --> 01:17:58.900
if I'm protecting myself and I'm cutting things out,

2478
01:18:01.025 --> 01:18:02.603
I support other people who do the same.

2479
01:18:04.025 --> 01:18:04.478
That's okay.

2480
01:18:04.479 --> 01:18:05.150
If that's okay.

2481
01:18:05.306 --> 01:18:05.619
You know,

2482
01:18:06.403 --> 01:18:06.724
You know what?

2483
01:18:06.725 --> 01:18:09.166
It doesn't matter if it's okay to anybody else as long as it's okay with you.

2484
01:18:09.346 --> 01:18:10.187
And that's all that matters.

2485
01:18:10.188 --> 01:18:10.426
I mean,

2486
01:18:10.445 --> 01:18:10.867
like.

2487
01:18:11.047 --> 01:18:11.250
Right?

2488
01:18:11.508 --> 01:18:11.687
Yeah.

2489
01:18:12.187 --> 01:18:14.328
Take a page out of Sophia's book.

2490
01:18:15.055 --> 01:18:15.351
You know?

2491
01:18:15.734 --> 01:18:15.992
Seriously.

2492
01:18:16.430 --> 01:18:20.320
You know what was so good out of Sophia's book with the whole Janelle thing?

2493
01:18:20.820 --> 01:18:22.641
When Janelle started talking about my daughter,

2494
01:18:23.281 --> 01:18:26.469
my daughter just refused to even talk,

2495
01:18:26.969 --> 01:18:27.562
be a part.

2496
01:18:28.125 --> 01:18:29.141
And she just shut it down.

2497
01:18:29.328 --> 01:18:30.625
It's like block and move on.

2498
01:18:31.609 --> 01:18:31.891
And so,

2499
01:18:32.250 --> 01:18:33.609
yeah.

2500
01:18:33.610 --> 01:18:35.750
I think anything negative like that on the internet.

2501
01:18:35.983 --> 01:18:38.906
does not deserve anyone's attention.

2502
01:18:39.147 --> 01:18:43.430
And you should never respond to something like that because it's not worth your time.

2503
01:18:43.629 --> 01:18:43.914
Truly.

2504
01:18:46.571 --> 01:18:49.180
I would love the next time you guys are in town,

2505
01:18:49.336 --> 01:18:49.453
like,

2506
01:18:49.492 --> 01:18:50.617
let's say like two or three months from now,

2507
01:18:51.414 --> 01:18:51.578
um,

2508
01:18:52.305 --> 01:18:55.539
you and I talk and she's,

2509
01:18:55.727 --> 01:18:56.086
it's going to,

2510
01:18:56.087 --> 01:18:56.758
this is going to kill her.

2511
01:18:57.211 --> 01:19:00.352
She's just going to be out there and she has to stay out there.

2512
01:19:01.086 --> 01:19:01.352
And then,

2513
01:19:01.430 --> 01:19:01.696
and we'll,

2514
01:19:01.697 --> 01:19:02.946
and we'll,

2515
01:19:03.071 --> 01:19:04.086
we'll talk and do our thing.

2516
01:19:04.383 --> 01:19:05.117
And then afterwards.

2517
01:19:05.319 --> 01:19:08.861
You can go hang out in the green room and then and then your mom and I will just sit and talk.

2518
01:19:09.400 --> 01:19:09.822
Yeah.

2519
01:19:09.841 --> 01:19:10.021
Right.

2520
01:19:10.060 --> 01:19:11.322
I would I would love that.

2521
01:19:11.982 --> 01:19:14.079
I just think that to wrap things up,

2522
01:19:14.861 --> 01:19:22.743
I want to thank both of you from the bottom of my heart to having us to let me have earned the rights for you both to be as vulnerable as you are.

2523
01:19:24.290 --> 01:19:26.056
But when we talked last time,

2524
01:19:26.118 --> 01:19:26.868
it was excellent.

2525
01:19:27.243 --> 01:19:30.603
But this time we just because often we know each other better now.

2526
01:19:31.359 --> 01:19:32.301
We're getting to know each other,

2527
01:19:32.361 --> 01:19:34.184
but I think the call was great as well.

2528
01:19:34.284 --> 01:19:35.528
Thank you for mentioning that.

2529
01:19:36.610 --> 01:19:39.356
Thank you for letting me earn the right for your vulnerability.

2530
01:19:39.372 --> 01:19:40.356
Yeah,

2531
01:19:40.575 --> 01:19:40.817
thank you.

2532
01:19:40.818 --> 01:19:44.278
That you feel safe enough to do that here means a lot to me.

2533
01:19:45.168 --> 01:19:45.549
What I do,

2534
01:19:45.649 --> 01:19:49.171
because I really try to protect people's peace here as well.

2535
01:19:49.354 --> 01:19:51.073
We love that about podcasters,

2536
01:19:51.135 --> 01:19:51.276
yeah?

2537
01:19:52.276 --> 01:19:53.557
There's some who don't.

2538
01:19:53.620 --> 01:19:55.081
There's a lot that don't.

2539
01:19:55.518 --> 01:19:57.081
And there's some of us that are on the,

2540
01:19:57.096 --> 01:19:57.417
it's like,

2541
01:19:57.440 --> 01:19:57.698
you know,

2542
01:19:57.737 --> 01:19:58.182
Star Wars.

2543
01:19:58.183 --> 01:19:59.245
There's a good side of the force,

2544
01:19:59.246 --> 01:20:00.323
there's a dark side of the force.

2545
01:20:00.324 --> 01:20:01.198
It's okay.

2546
01:20:01.199 --> 01:20:04.042
And I really try to be on the good side of the force with what I do.

2547
01:20:04.307 --> 01:20:05.714
And I don't pay for my audience.

2548
01:20:05.715 --> 01:20:08.010
I don't pay for reviews and comments.

2549
01:20:08.011 --> 01:20:09.948
And I am who I am and just do my thing.

2550
01:20:09.979 --> 01:20:13.354
And so I love that you came in and really.

2551
01:20:13.680 --> 01:20:15.241
We had such a wonderful conversation.

2552
01:20:15.300 --> 01:20:16.460
I love that we got to chat.

2553
01:20:16.781 --> 01:20:17.021
Yeah,

2554
01:20:17.300 --> 01:20:17.980
this was great.

2555
01:20:18.042 --> 01:20:18.980
Play with topics.

2556
01:20:19.702 --> 01:20:22.882
You have an open seat there whenever you would like.

2557
01:20:23.242 --> 01:20:24.562
I think that down the road,

2558
01:20:24.601 --> 01:20:28.523
what would be fun is to have one of you co-pilot with me,

2559
01:20:28.624 --> 01:20:30.077
and then we pick somebody else to come in,

2560
01:20:30.577 --> 01:20:31.921
and we do like a podcast,

2561
01:20:31.968 --> 01:20:33.937
like you pick somebody and have them come in.

2562
01:20:34.406 --> 01:20:35.390
Or you pick somebody,

2563
01:20:35.843 --> 01:20:36.124
Farrah,

2564
01:20:36.125 --> 01:20:37.062
and have them come in.

2565
01:20:37.531 --> 01:20:38.968
And then we do a podcast together,

2566
01:20:38.984 --> 01:20:40.124
and we kind of like tag team.

2567
01:20:40.556 --> 01:20:43.057
Somebody else and we just like fire questions at them and talk to them.

2568
01:20:43.356 --> 01:20:43.577
Yeah.

2569
01:20:44.276 --> 01:20:45.096
What kind of people?

2570
01:20:46.319 --> 01:20:46.756
You know what?

2571
01:20:46.858 --> 01:20:50.319
I think it's people that are used to being in the public eye.

2572
01:20:50.577 --> 01:20:50.819
Okay.

2573
01:20:51.077 --> 01:20:51.280
Right?

2574
01:20:51.600 --> 01:20:52.038
Yeah.

2575
01:20:52.319 --> 01:20:54.678
But people also that if you earn the right,

2576
01:20:55.163 --> 01:20:56.077
they'll be vulnerable.

2577
01:20:56.983 --> 01:20:59.202
If they know that their peace is going to be protected.

2578
01:20:59.608 --> 01:20:59.717
Yeah.

2579
01:20:59.905 --> 01:21:01.920
That they're okay with exposing themselves a little bit.

2580
01:21:02.139 --> 01:21:02.858
Yeah.

2581
01:21:02.859 --> 01:21:05.123
Which you're very comfortable doing that.

2582
01:21:05.792 --> 01:21:05.912
You,

2583
01:21:06.032 --> 01:21:06.493
my love,

2584
01:21:06.613 --> 01:21:08.734
are so good that you did it here.

2585
01:21:08.816 --> 01:21:11.738
And that's why I thank you a million times over for that.

2586
01:21:11.898 --> 01:21:12.539
Of course.

2587
01:21:12.540 --> 01:21:12.898
You're welcome.

2588
01:21:13.500 --> 01:21:13.761
Thank you.

2589
01:21:13.762 --> 01:21:14.019
Thank you.

2590
01:21:14.020 --> 01:21:15.605
We appreciate it.

2591
01:21:15.606 --> 01:21:20.543
I just think that that's like the best guest I get are the ones that come in and say,

2592
01:21:21.144 --> 01:21:21.410
okay.

2593
01:21:21.511 --> 01:21:22.605
And within the first couple of minutes,

2594
01:21:22.606 --> 01:21:23.824
we had the nice call ahead of time.

2595
01:21:24.168 --> 01:21:24.730
Let's talk.

2596
01:21:25.027 --> 01:21:25.293
Yeah.

2597
01:21:25.449 --> 01:21:28.308
And you don't even think the cameras are here and the microphones are here after a while.

2598
01:21:28.339 --> 01:21:29.230
You just kind of do your thing.

2599
01:21:29.293 --> 01:21:30.277
So thank you,

2600
01:21:30.293 --> 01:21:30.543
ladies,

2601
01:21:30.558 --> 01:21:30.871
very much.

2602
01:21:31.214 --> 01:21:32.402
Thank you for having us.

2603
01:21:32.403 --> 01:21:32.839
Good stuff.

2604
01:21:33.214 --> 01:21:33.777
I love it.

2605
01:21:34.364 --> 01:21:35.529
We don't get to do this often.

2606
01:21:36.151 --> 01:21:36.332
Yeah.

2607
01:21:36.333 --> 01:21:37.135
We'll do it again.

2608
01:21:37.136 --> 01:21:37.879
We'll do it again soon.